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I have this prolem with not wanting to be touched. I always start a relationship that ends badly bcuz the guy im with of course wants more than i do. I dont even want to kiss anyone. I think its because im so self concious. Normal? How do i change this?
I have the same problem!
For the longest time, in each relationship I've been in, I never liked being touched often. I never found out why until a year ago when I realized that I don't mind the touching, it's the immediate change in temperature that I hate.
My body temperature is usually cool to the touch, and his is very warm. We had always kept the house at 76 degrees which was a comfortable temperature both clothed and nude (because walking around in your house nude is an awesome feeling).
When he got close to me, it got hot. Solution = lowered the A/C to 68-69 and it's more tolerable now, although I still dislike it.
It's so hard to explain! I was born in a very cold climate (Alaska) so I suppose I'm use to feeling my outer layer of skin to be cold all the time.
ive had a problem similar to this i was so nervous with physical contact i would freeze or shrug it off and avoid intimacy like the plaugue ive got beter recently i began to learn to relax and block out all my fears which were causing me to avoid contact but im still learning, the best thing you can do is communicate to people that your not fully comfortable with touch and that it will take time....mostly you need to learn to trust yourself and your feelings
Not normal. Have your parent divorced? Have u had any serious disappointment in life?
You do psychoanalysis or something.
I had the same problem because I had been hurt as a child. Still I never hug my parents. Other people only a little. If they are friends I kinda don't have a big problem touching them or being touched although i don't go for it. But with my girlfriends i never had such problems. Most tender guy in the world :-) . Well, I think you should change the way you see life. To feel this way you must know that there is absolutely no logic in feeling this way. You have to work on your inner self, realize your misconceptions about life and become a better person. Getting detached from reality and other people only makes you "an empty shell" in theological terms. If you want to detach from something then detach from your misconceptions. LIVE life. Life is good you know. As good as you think it will be. Happiness and feeling are subjective. If you detach from your feeling you get nothing out life. You need to learn to control yourself, to send your energy to the direction that you alone desire. Complete detachment is sickness of the soul.
There was a Nip/Tuck epidose about this last night. There was a male/ female couple. It ended up that the man was GAY and the woman was hiding behind that fact to avoid being hurt. In the end, he came out of the closet and she started having sex again with men and women. Maybe you aren't attracted to men.