Your fundamental sexuality is what it is. I view human sexuality as a ball - and depending how you turn the ball you see a 2 dimensional drawing between two possibilities (which is why pan-sexuality and other things exist).
The most commonly discussed chart that applies to the largest % of the population looks like this (on a X & Y axis chart).
Where we are on the chart is not a "dot" but a blob shape with lobes in different directions (and people often experiment to figure out their their natural "blob" lobes).
Yes, it's quite normal to struggle with accepting who you are sexually (and that includes many straight people - as some are naturally more promiscuous than others, some are extreme monogamist (sex with another in any situation would cause mental difficulties), others extreme polygamist (must live with multiples or have mental difficulties) - and a lot of people often desire to be something they are not).
The above chart and base descriptions of it and the struggles most people go through were part of 6 months of sex counseling that cost about $10,000 and used up all of my accumulated PTO one year (my wife and I are on different places on that chart - and we didn't know that before we got married). Worth every penny - and really learning about this and about the differences saved our marriage.
It's best to figure out who you are and accept that. You don't have to apologize to anyone.
Is it normal to not want to be gay when you are?
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Your fundamental sexuality is what it is. I view human sexuality as a ball - and depending how you turn the ball you see a 2 dimensional drawing between two possibilities (which is why pan-sexuality and other things exist).
The most commonly discussed chart that applies to the largest % of the population looks like this (on a X & Y axis chart).
Monogamist
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Monogamish
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| Homosexual ----- Bisexual ----- Heterosexual
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Polygamish
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Polygamist
Where we are on the chart is not a "dot" but a blob shape with lobes in different directions (and people often experiment to figure out their their natural "blob" lobes).
Yes, it's quite normal to struggle with accepting who you are sexually (and that includes many straight people - as some are naturally more promiscuous than others, some are extreme monogamist (sex with another in any situation would cause mental difficulties), others extreme polygamist (must live with multiples or have mental difficulties) - and a lot of people often desire to be something they are not).
The above chart and base descriptions of it and the struggles most people go through were part of 6 months of sex counseling that cost about $10,000 and used up all of my accumulated PTO one year (my wife and I are on different places on that chart - and we didn't know that before we got married). Worth every penny - and really learning about this and about the differences saved our marriage.
It's best to figure out who you are and accept that. You don't have to apologize to anyone.