It's typical to want to bring someone down to your own (perceived) level of whatever emotions you are having at the time. If you are sort of miserable and you see someone who is happy (or appears to be at least) you will try to knock them down to your level - It's not fair that they are happy and I am not - otherwise you don’t feel like you are speaking the same language. Here comes in the phrase, misery loves company (though I am not saying you are miserable by any means). If you flipped this around and were completely happy and you see a miserable person...... what do you do? Usually avoid this person because you don’t want them to bring you down. To counter act you could be happy (soul searching required ;) and try to bring people up to your level - which can be exhausting - that’s why a lot of happy people choose to be with other happy people.
Don’t let what you do, or your successes determine your true self. For example: "If I'm not a doctor, I am nothing" this person is associating their identity to being a doctor and if they do not achieve this, they will feel exactly what they said 'nothing'. Well that’s not them, that’s just an idea in their head conjured up from who knows where (parents, ego, peers).
Is it normal to not want my best friend and best cousin to be happy?
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It's typical to want to bring someone down to your own (perceived) level of whatever emotions you are having at the time. If you are sort of miserable and you see someone who is happy (or appears to be at least) you will try to knock them down to your level - It's not fair that they are happy and I am not - otherwise you don’t feel like you are speaking the same language. Here comes in the phrase, misery loves company (though I am not saying you are miserable by any means). If you flipped this around and were completely happy and you see a miserable person...... what do you do? Usually avoid this person because you don’t want them to bring you down. To counter act you could be happy (soul searching required ;) and try to bring people up to your level - which can be exhausting - that’s why a lot of happy people choose to be with other happy people.
Don’t let what you do, or your successes determine your true self. For example: "If I'm not a doctor, I am nothing" this person is associating their identity to being a doctor and if they do not achieve this, they will feel exactly what they said 'nothing'. Well that’s not them, that’s just an idea in their head conjured up from who knows where (parents, ego, peers).