Is it normal to not want kids?

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My husband and I both think we might never want kids. I'm afraid that if we have kids I won't be a good mom, that I will love them more than my husband and most of all I'm afraid they're going to ruin my relationship and cause a divorced. Because it seems like once a couple has kids all their dreams n their whole relationship goes away. Are these normal fears and will I ever not feel this way toward children? Is it selfish or wrong to feel his way?

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Based on 115 votes (98 yes)
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  • mtnw
    13 years ago

    not everyone wants to have children, and that's ok. only be prepared for people who don't understand to give you all kinds of shit. the decision is yours and your husband's, and it doesn't have to be made today. think about what you and your husband want, because no matter what anyone says, it is your marriage and your life.

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  • justanordinarygirl
    13 years ago

    It's normal to not want to have to squeeze a watermelon out of your hoohoo.

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  • fabulousfangirl
    9 years ago

    I don't want kids either! (:

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  • Jbeiberhole69
    12 years ago

    Fuck kids

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    well its up to you but i used to feel the same way. if you are so unsure then maybe get a dog and see how you go with looking after it. i know its not a really good comparison but it could gauge whether you want to look after another living thing.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    it's a personal choice, but i sorta agree w/ the above comment. it sounds like you would like to have children, but you're afraid you won't be a good parent. maybe you will be a good mom if you try. just discuss it with your husband. good luck.

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  • polkadots
    13 years ago

    It sounds to me like you actually want kids, but you're just afraid that you won't be good enough or that you'll screw it up somehow. You should really discuss it with your husband, and if you agree that you're not gonna have kids then you shouldn't and the same the other way around. A lot of people choose to not have kids.

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  • M3GANiTE
    13 years ago

    I think every person has those feelings, but once you actually become a parent, you'll probably surprise your self and be a good parent.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    I suppose it's normal BUT if your relationship is a strong one then having children should be no threat. That's something to think about...

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  • jbmitchell999
    13 years ago

    Normal and selfish. Nothing beats the constant warmth of raising good kids.

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