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My husband and I both think we might never want kids. I'm afraid that if we have kids I won't be a good mom, that I will love them more than my husband and most of all I'm afraid they're going to ruin my relationship and cause a divorced. Because it seems like once a couple has kids all their dreams n their whole relationship goes away. Are these normal fears and will I ever not feel this way toward children? Is it selfish or wrong to feel his way?
not everyone wants to have children, and that's ok. only be prepared for people who don't understand to give you all kinds of shit. the decision is yours and your husband's, and it doesn't have to be made today. think about what you and your husband want, because no matter what anyone says, it is your marriage and your life.
It sounds to me like you actually want kids, but you're just afraid that you won't be good enough or that you'll screw it up somehow. You should really discuss it with your husband, and if you agree that you're not gonna have kids then you shouldn't and the same the other way around. A lot of people choose to not have kids.