I'm truly sorry for the hardships you have and continue to face. I honestly can't imagine having breast cancer at such a young age. I'm quite familiar with fibromyalgia as I myself live with depression, anxiety and myofascial pain. I know I came off all half cocked, but I was rather frustrated that you hadn't been initially forthcoming in regards to your disability which you appeared, in opinion, to use as an excuse to manipulate.
However, despite all of the pain and heartbreak you have and continue to face it's not an excuse to ask someone else to forfeit his dreams. If you love this guy as much as you claim to please don't use your life struggles as a tool to guilt him into abandoning his chosen life occupation. Try to trust your fiancée, God and the Universe on this one. If it doesn't work out as painful as that would be then it would mean that it wasn't meant to be. Neither, you nor I or anyone is entitled to dictate to another that he or she should forget about their dreams for the sake of a so called relationship.
How would you feel if he did everything your asking of him only to breakup many years down the line when he is unable to pursue medical school. How would you feel if he were to deeply resent you for the sacrifices you're expecting of him?
I sacrificed a lot to marry someone who I eventually had to divorce do to his infidelity. I regret having made those sacrifices and I still resent him to this day. In all honesty I sometimes wish I had never met him. I wish I had followed my course of study, my dreams.
Patience is a virtue!
P.S. Have you tried Cymbalta? It's done wonders for my pain and depression.
IIN to not want boyfriend to become a doctor?
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I'm truly sorry for the hardships you have and continue to face. I honestly can't imagine having breast cancer at such a young age. I'm quite familiar with fibromyalgia as I myself live with depression, anxiety and myofascial pain. I know I came off all half cocked, but I was rather frustrated that you hadn't been initially forthcoming in regards to your disability which you appeared, in opinion, to use as an excuse to manipulate.
However, despite all of the pain and heartbreak you have and continue to face it's not an excuse to ask someone else to forfeit his dreams. If you love this guy as much as you claim to please don't use your life struggles as a tool to guilt him into abandoning his chosen life occupation. Try to trust your fiancée, God and the Universe on this one. If it doesn't work out as painful as that would be then it would mean that it wasn't meant to be. Neither, you nor I or anyone is entitled to dictate to another that he or she should forget about their dreams for the sake of a so called relationship.
How would you feel if he did everything your asking of him only to breakup many years down the line when he is unable to pursue medical school. How would you feel if he were to deeply resent you for the sacrifices you're expecting of him?
I sacrificed a lot to marry someone who I eventually had to divorce do to his infidelity. I regret having made those sacrifices and I still resent him to this day. In all honesty I sometimes wish I had never met him. I wish I had followed my course of study, my dreams.
Patience is a virtue!
P.S. Have you tried Cymbalta? It's done wonders for my pain and depression.