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my girl doesnt seem to want to cuddle with me or let me touch her . She wont touch me unless i ask her real nice .
some people have intimacy problems, like me. It's not because we dislike the person we are dating, more because of other deep seeded issues within our head. I for example, have an incredibly hard time being intimate because I am dead set convinced that they don't want to have an intimate interaction with me. It's very hard to convince me because its been drilled into my head from all the years of self hatred, I just assume they hate me too. When someone likes me I feel like they made a big mistake, and going out with them I feel like I'm taking advantage of the fact that they made a dumb decision. everyone has different reasons to why they have intimacy issues, but you could try talking to her about it.
hi Jamie. Thank you for the reply. Im thinking if its something like that then it would be a self esteem thing. We are both 54 and she gas had my children so she put on some weight and that isnt an issue with me and i tell her that she is sexy as hell and she is to me. I love her so much that i dont have the words to express it. She is my H.S. sweetheart and shes the only one i ever wanted / I asked her tonight what the deal was with this issue and she said she really dont know and she all of the sudden dont know how to be a Wife/Partner/Spouse anymore and thats her reasoning/How can i fix this if i even can/ Im ready to give up on this BS life anytime tonight i was wishing for a quick end so i dont have to feel like im raping her when we have sex. I lost her once and it seems to me its happening again only this time its not my fault. anymore thoughts on what i can do to fix this would be greatly appreciated. I was right. Lol in not very good with relationships I feel
plese can you help me i found out that she is suffering with self asteem issues and i try to let her know shes sexy and beautiful give flowers whet else can i do ?
sometimes these kinds of problems are hard to fix, I suggest give her time. Rub one out on the meantime. Also if its really taxing on your relationsjips maybe get come form of proffessional help, such as couples therapy or maybe just private therapy for her. have patience with her. Issues like these don't go away in a fortnite.
You need to have a conversation with her and find out what she’s really feeling and thinking about the relationship.
hi noid how are you ? Well im still trying to hold this relationship together and i did what you said and i finally did find out something after she was just about ready to walk.I told her when we got back together that we need to talk to each other about problems we might be having come to find out she has been holding things back for almost 2 yrs now and she wont tell me all of it. so today im going to let her know that she might have been causing this all of this all the time and now i want her to tell me all or nothing if she cant do this is that right?. I want to spend my life with her and theres nobody i would rather do it with well i hope you have a great day and tyis that still right what im doing?
thanks for he reply. I did that tonight when she fought me away from her for trying literally. Her reply was I really dont know why i gont want to have sex with you. then when she was mad and yelling at me she said that she felt sorry for me because my bills werent all up to date and one was behind. I think this might be it. Im not the one to take pitty. I dont want that from her i want her by my side enjoying life with me but if this is life please shoot me im done with this bs she dont have to feel sorry for me. and she says she loves me but im not sure these days if thats a genuine feeling.
found out she does want it just she feels like she not being appreciated. When a person says or acts like they love them how do you show the appreciation i know by flowers things like that then im told not to do that for her either. so how please got any answers ?
i totally agree with this person here. try it dude what else do u got to lose
For me no intimacy is a deal breaker. I love cuddles and if my guy won't give it im out
Hi Rose thanks for your post. can you help me? I dont know what to say to her without her becoming defensive. Then everything goes to hell. Tonight i tried and we ended up arguing and then she says she really dont know why she dont want to have sex. Hmmm I dont know how to take this. Please help if you can. I would be indebted to you forever.
How long have ya'll been seeing each other? I think I it's definitely important to find out why she's not interested in intimacy. It's certainly possible have affection without intimacy, but I think you need to find out what is going on in her head. Is she a really conservative person who wants to wait for a serious commitment, or is she a just non-affectionate person? I can't guarantee what she'll say, or where you'll stand, but either way you need to find out what is going on with her.
we were together 20 yrs then split up got back together 15 yrs later i told her then that we need to express our problems so we can fix them or deal with them well she hasnt been doing that holding them in. i guess i dont show my appreciation to her . I buy flowers candy and other stuff and express my undieing love to her and she dont eat it or tells me not to buy her flowers any more. Im at odds end and dont know what to do