You are Enlightened, in the respect that you are able to separate the act of marriage from the ritual of a wedding. Many people do not do this, and put more thought into the ceremony, rather than into the marriage.
A decision of marriage should not be made lightly, as there are many responsibilities inherent to this. You must be able to co-habitate together amicably, sharing in duties and expenditures. You have a shared responsibility of property. You should consider the possibility of raising a child together. You should also consider the possibility of divorce (I know, it will never happen to you, but it does happen in most marriages). Will your love for one another last, and what will happen if it does not? Can you still live together, without a sexual relationship?
Personally, I think that in today's society, we should re-examine the entire institution of marriage, instead of blindly following outdated religious practices that most often do not work.
It would be easy to reform marriage law to reflect changes in modern society. The one major problem in this, is when children are involved.
I do not fully understand why some people find it necessary to have an elaborate (usually) one-off wedding ritual, rather than a celebration of love, which can be as small or large as you like it, and can be repeated as you choose to.
Is it normal to not want a wedding?
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You are Enlightened, in the respect that you are able to separate the act of marriage from the ritual of a wedding. Many people do not do this, and put more thought into the ceremony, rather than into the marriage.
A decision of marriage should not be made lightly, as there are many responsibilities inherent to this. You must be able to co-habitate together amicably, sharing in duties and expenditures. You have a shared responsibility of property. You should consider the possibility of raising a child together. You should also consider the possibility of divorce (I know, it will never happen to you, but it does happen in most marriages). Will your love for one another last, and what will happen if it does not? Can you still live together, without a sexual relationship?
Personally, I think that in today's society, we should re-examine the entire institution of marriage, instead of blindly following outdated religious practices that most often do not work.
It would be easy to reform marriage law to reflect changes in modern society. The one major problem in this, is when children are involved.
I do not fully understand why some people find it necessary to have an elaborate (usually) one-off wedding ritual, rather than a celebration of love, which can be as small or large as you like it, and can be repeated as you choose to.