Is it normal to not understand why woman are attracted to men?

As a guy, I understand VERY well what is attractive and alluring about women.

But trying to peek into the perspective of a woman.. I am dumbstruck at the thought of finding a man attractive.

I simply assume that I have to take a huge leap of faith, but.. it still bothers me for two reasons:

1.) Ew! How can I be with someone who finds something I think is disgusting attractive?
2.) The fact that a woman would find a man attractive means she must be REALLY different from me mentally, and I have doubts as to how "close" too vastly different people can be.

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  • 7789dur

    I find the female body quite repulsive as a straight female.

    I suppose partially, it's the mystery of the unknown, or fascination with a body that I don't have.

    Here's an idea - Explain why you love women, reverse it and apply it to men, maybe change some words or body parts, and that's the reason why women love men.

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  • XxMrWoottonxX

    Weird. I have your exact same problem. The only difference is I'm a girl wondering how the HELL boys can be attracted to my gender. It even makes me feel awkward with my boyfriend. -_-

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  • equanimity

    Personally, I find men physically attractive (compared to women) for a multitude of reasons. I'll list a few for you:

    -they are more muscular and stronger than me, even their hands.
    -their hairy chest feels fantastic against the softness of my breasts.
    -their deeper voice makes my knees weak.
    -they have penises, which feels amazing when it's inside of you; like it's just meant to be that way and it is.
    -their lustiness for women and stronger desire for sex; being the focus of that sort of attention is exciting.
    -the way their body is so different from my own that it is fun to explore and experience.
    -they normally smell so good too, when they are clean.

    These things are only attractive if I already find the man himself attractive, but that's a different topic.

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    • Charmo

      That was hot.

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  • Gundoon

    In conclusion, to not fell attracted to men, isn't normal in females, however it happens, but to not understand the reason why men and females and attracted to each other, or the reasons why is not only normal, but it must show you are lacking in some form of mental power, or perhaps decent schooling?

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  • Gundoon

    Also in retrospect my answer is lacking other things, such as, the reason men are attracted to "pretty girls" as in the modern term, is because biology states you find the best genetic code to join with yours, also the reason you would NORMALLY be attracted is chemicals in the brain telling you so, so really if you don't understand that the "key" fits into the "lock" for a reason, you really don't understand the point of life. - Dr Alan Rowalski, Professor of Human Biology.

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  • lilmissnaughty

    Well I think both gender are hot.

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  • Koda

    You must not be a very creative thinker. And if you find men disgusting, you're also pretty darned closed-minded, and you must not know any guys worth knowing. I pity you for that.

    Once, out of a similar, yet benign curiosity, I asked my girlfriend (ex) what she thought about women physically compared to men. She said that she thought women were kind of dumpy, bottom-heavy, frail-looking, aged terribly, and have boring, plain faces! It was eye-opening to hear this, but I tried, and I could see where she was coming from, and she could see where I was coming from. Straight men and gay women appreciate the softness of woman's body and the openness of a pretty woman's face, whereas gay men and straight women appreciate the angularity of a man's body and the chiselled symmetry of a handsome man's face. Women are only called the "fairer" sex because men still rule our society. The straight male viewpoint is considered "right" instead of just one viewpoint out of many. There are just as many beautiful men as women, but it takes an open mind to see it. Something, as I said, you don't possess.

    The fact that you applied your disgust of men to the women whose POV you can't understand is even more disturbing. In a way, though, I'm glad you think how you do, so that some women are spared from you. Someone who believes that the mentality of someone's idea of attractiveness has any bearing on his or her character is a shallow person. If a woman is intelligent, empathetic, and good-natured, what does if matter if you disagree with her about the aesthetic appeal of the genders? If you had a baby, and it was born male, would you vomit at the sight of it? That's how ridiculous you sound. Are you nauseated walking down the street when a male model passes by, and relieved when a 600lb woman with terrible acne obstructs your view of him? Do you think you're disgusting looking as well? This is what your ridiculous generalizing is suggesting. There are women in this world born with men's faces and no hips. There are men who have female faces, and if they put on make up, you wouldn't be able to tell they're men. Where do they fit into your generalization?

    You just seem to me like one of those pathetic guys who puts every single woman in existence on a pedestal, no matter who they are or what they've done, because you believe the only redeeming quality in a woman is her physical beauty. You'd be right about being "vastly different" as you're VASTLY different from a rational person.

    The fact this post is considered normal only goes to show that men don't think other men can be offended by stuff like this. It's another tired cultural bias. Let me put this in simpler terms. You're a straight man; you're not SUPPOSED to be sexually attracted to other men, of COURSE it doesn't make sense to you! Just because you're a man, and you don't understand something, doesn't mean that 'thing' is wrong or weird! You're only you, you're not every man, and you're not all-knowing. So, please, do the world a favour, and stop being a man-hating, presumptuous arsehole. Try to see the non-sexual beauty that some men possess, and even the non-physical beauty in some of the women you might not otherwise find attractive. Part of the fun of living in a world with variant genders and sexual orientations is that we're all different! Different isn't bad. Judge people for their goodness and their minds, and use physical looks for exactly what they're here for; sex and purely aesthetic appreciation.

    You probably posted this with 'innocent' intentions, and my reaction probably seems extremely harsh, but I'm trying to knock some sense into you because what you said has the potential to offend a lot of people. I'm a guy, and I think I'm an attractive person. I might happen to think you are, and I might not think, say, your girlfriend is, even though you're the one I'd never want to sleep with because of my straight orientation, but this has no meaning beyond aesthetic preference. Maybe you, in all honesty have never seen a man you've found good-looking, and you've never seen a woman you've found ugly. That's fine, but don't take that to mean the universal truth is that men are ugly and that straight women and gay men are all crazy and deluded for preferring them over women. It's nature, it's chemical, and you're mixing in logic where it doesn't belong, with your opinions. If you read this entire thing, thanks for at least considering my point of view. I hope you change your mind about men and the women who appreciate them.

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  • theabider

    I am a girl, and sometimes I do wonder why guys find girls SOOOO attractive. I mean, their faces are pretty sometimes, but their bodies? Two big floppy lumps of fat on their chests, with puffy brown points? What's so great about breasts? But the main thing is, the between the leg area. I mean, the other day, my bf asked me to take some pics of myself down there and send to him. So I did. But the result was APPALLING to me. I lack the words to describe it. A penis may not be the most aesthetically beautiful thing, but it sure beats what we girls got...IMHO

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  • openbottom58

    I think both genders are hot and sexy

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  • mark777

    First off, men are not disgusting.

    you need to let go of that Idea. I am willing to bet that it wasn't your idea to begin with but passed to you by one or more bitter man hating women.

    it's a major social problem at this point in history.

    let it go and move on.

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  • Gundoon

    I'm sorry, but this is just idiotic, and for that reason I will blunt and not "politically correct" due to the fact you are clearly too simple to understand this. Women (Females of the Human Race) and attracted to Men (Males of the Human Race) due to the following reason, normal biological chemistry dictates this, because of reproduction, women aren't ment to like other women, and vis versa, this is a fault in there genetic coding, this is speaking scientifically and not morally, because morally I accept this, and accept people are born in such a way, however this does not condone is stupid question, why? Well, frankly because without it the human race would die out, in future please refrain from posting such time wasting and utterly idiotic of questions, its like asking "why is the sky blue?" or "why do I have to eat?" If you are old enough to post this, then you should be old enough to know basic biology.

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  • I ponder similar things. For one I ponder why men find boobs attractive, I am a guy as well. Honestly, I've come to the conclusion it's just the mystery behind the "covers," so to speak. As to why women like men, well that's just evolution. Why do you like women? Evolution has just told us that we want what we want.

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  • JBN

    As a gay men, all I think of is men and their bodies. I find women uninteresting mentally and physically.

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    • Koda

      Why did this get thumbed down? If you thumb something down because you disagree with an alternative view point, you're pretty petty.

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  • psm45

    i agree. homosexuals are weird

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  • regisphilbin

    i am bisexual and find both genders physically appealing.

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Get with a guy. He'll feel the same way as you about women.

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    • regisphilbin

      lol you dirty devil you

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  • Wyim89

    I am assuming that is just nature's way of telling you what is in the best interested in our species. As a male (you and I) we might prefer women who are of shorter stature, with more fat (in certain areas), soft skin and large lips.
    As females they are looking for non of those traits (mostly).
    But from time to time I have made comments such as "Liam Neeson and Gerard Butler are pretty good looking men." So has my wife.

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    • Koda

      There also plenty of men with soft skin and large lips... Lip size especially has no gender correlation beyond a slight female protrusion in profile. Men actually have slightly more visible vermillion (red lip portion) on average. Men also don't have wider mouths as people think, only wider jaws. Women with big lips are preferred culturally. Whereas men can be considered attractive within a larger spectrum of lip sizes. Also, women take care of their lips so they remain redder and plumper with age compared to men. Older men often have withered lips because they don't protect them with balms or exfoliate.

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  • superaspie

    Evolution.

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