Right with you. Trust issues definitely valid. Woman I'm dating (second time around, actually) has a habit of talking to damn near any guy when we go out, especially if we sit at a bar, including turning her back to me (making it difficult for me to get into the conversation..but I still do). She's even gone outside for a smoke with a few, but at least one asked me first "Are you sure it's ok?" to her disdain that he'd even ask me.
She has health issues, and doesn't get out much unless we go out, but, she's also an exceptional beauty, has gorgeous, light green eyes, a sexy smile, and is very personable. In short, she's a flirt and guys go to her, even when I'm there. I get that she's on overload when we're out, as it's socialization she doesn't get enough of, but..Every fkn time we go out, this shit happens. I can time it, sometimes in seconds, how long it will be before she's chatting with some guy. And it pisses me off.
Told her a month or two ago, I don't like it, it makes me look bad, and you look available when you're not (I could have said slut, but held off). She replied with "You don't want me to be me". I told her yes, I did, is why I love her..But, this constant need for attention and being a social butterfly, almost purely with guys, has to stop. Is also why I try to get us a booth if we go somewhere, and, keep us out of my usual sports bar, as I know too many people and we had a bad night there one night. Guy I know slid his ass right over, of course, on her side and not mine, bought her a drink, and chatted her/us up all night, to the point she told me "Does he think I'm going to fuck him right here on the bar?".
I had a direct, you pissed me off, chat with him about a week later. This is the stuff I try to avoid, taking her out and basically serving her up to other guys.
My advice would be..Talk to your gf about it, and if she won't change..Dump her ass and go for someone else.
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Right with you. Trust issues definitely valid. Woman I'm dating (second time around, actually) has a habit of talking to damn near any guy when we go out, especially if we sit at a bar, including turning her back to me (making it difficult for me to get into the conversation..but I still do). She's even gone outside for a smoke with a few, but at least one asked me first "Are you sure it's ok?" to her disdain that he'd even ask me.
She has health issues, and doesn't get out much unless we go out, but, she's also an exceptional beauty, has gorgeous, light green eyes, a sexy smile, and is very personable. In short, she's a flirt and guys go to her, even when I'm there. I get that she's on overload when we're out, as it's socialization she doesn't get enough of, but..Every fkn time we go out, this shit happens. I can time it, sometimes in seconds, how long it will be before she's chatting with some guy. And it pisses me off.
Told her a month or two ago, I don't like it, it makes me look bad, and you look available when you're not (I could have said slut, but held off). She replied with "You don't want me to be me". I told her yes, I did, is why I love her..But, this constant need for attention and being a social butterfly, almost purely with guys, has to stop. Is also why I try to get us a booth if we go somewhere, and, keep us out of my usual sports bar, as I know too many people and we had a bad night there one night. Guy I know slid his ass right over, of course, on her side and not mine, bought her a drink, and chatted her/us up all night, to the point she told me "Does he think I'm going to fuck him right here on the bar?".
I had a direct, you pissed me off, chat with him about a week later. This is the stuff I try to avoid, taking her out and basically serving her up to other guys.
My advice would be..Talk to your gf about it, and if she won't change..Dump her ass and go for someone else.