Is it normal to not tell my boyfriend about what happens at practice?

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So for my last year of high school I wanted to be a part of an extra curricular activity and my friends convinced me to tryout for showchoir which is singing/dancing in competions against schools around the area. I made the varsity program considering it is my senior year and I have been singing in choir since middle school. However during our performances we have to perform a costume change which means we have a short amount of time to change into a different costume for the second half of our show. At practice all the guys see the girls in their underwear and vice versa. I don't think my boyfriend josh would want me doing this if he knew that guys could see me in a thong if they were creeping. It never crosses my mind, but I'm sure some of the guys creep on the girls. I just really enjoy performing my heart out during practice and competitions which is why I do this. Josh knows he's the only guy I will have sex with, but he still gets jealous when I talk to other guys and I'm not sure if I should tell him about everything that goes on behind the curtain or just not worry about it knowing that during the performances we wear bloomers which cover everything up and he would never come to a practice.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago | pl

    If you weren't in a thong, I'd probably side with you. Wear less revealing underwear at least when you know you're going to perform :/

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    • thatchickyouhate
      9 years ago | pl

      this. especially because you said you wear bloomers, so we know your outfit is compatible with more modest undies.

      i don't necessarily think you need to tell him if that is how things just are and you aren't purposely going out of your way to show off for the guys. but if you are concerned you could ask the advisor if there are other arrangements that can be made to allow a little more privacy between the genders during performances.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago | pl

    My boyfriend doesn't like that I draw naked people. Fuck it. However, he doesn't know I've modeled nude before. Fuck it, we weren't together then anyway.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago | pl

      ha ha i like your style look at my members site i have a picy of my cock please comment

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  • RelapseRaid
    10 years ago | pl

    Coming from a guys point of view, it's completely normal. Half the stuff that my girlfriend tells me about, I wish she hasn't because it's completely innocent/okay stuff that I shouldn't worry about.

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  • WhitneyLynn
    10 years ago | pl

    I always try to wear non revealing underwear, it was mainly just the first practice non of us knew we were gonna practice the costume change so atleast half the girls were in thongs and all but one guy who's doing a solo come off stage with us so I know some of the guys were checking out the girls, I'm probably just going to tell him everything to keep his trust!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    Alrighty I'll jump in here.

    1. Never lie or hide shady things from your significant other. Things you know he/she would have a problem with.

    If you do, you are being dishonest and one day he'll find out then he may never trust you again. Say bye bye bye to your relationship. How could he trust you? You are intentionally being shady hiding important information from him. Stuff that you KNOW he'd want to know about. Other guys creeping on you in your thong? Wow.

    I'll break it down into Jr.High / Highschool speak:

    If I were your boyfriend and I hung out with some girl buddies of mine and one of them tried to get on me and I didn't tell you about it (kept it a secret from you) and I kept hanging out with her without you around then one of your girlfriends told you what happened and how 'she' was all over me you would be totally freaked out and probably wouldn't trust me anymore and you'd wonder why the hell didn't I tell you about it?!!

    You'd feel betrayed, hurt and confused and maybe little bit like a fool/embarrassed. You'd come to me pissed off and you'd say :

    "Why the hell didn't tell you about that slut trying to ride you and why the hell are you still hanging out with her behind my back?"

    I'd tell you I didn't think it was a big deal and didn't want you to freak out like you are doing now.

    How do you think people end up cheating?
    You think the significant other tells their bf/gf someone's flirting with them making them feel good and they're going to see them again?

    Um, NO.

    They keep shady secrets.

    So your bf has a right to be upset with you when he finds out you're giving other guys a peep show and you've been deceiving him, especially since you KNOW THEY CREEP ON YOU AND YOU CHOOSE TO WEAR A HOT SEXY THONG!

    WTF girl!?!?!

    To me it sounds like you want to turn those other guys on by showing them some ass by wearing a thong.

    LOL. Ok seriously take my advice and tell him. Honesty is always the best policy even if he gets upset. He'd rather get upset and know you tell him 'everything' than he finds out you're being shady and can't be trusted.

    He may get upset and he has a right to but tell him you didn't want to keep any secrets from him because you want him to trust you and because you tell him everything you deserve his trust and respect. Tell him you could of kept it a secret from him and he'd never know but you didn't want to be shady and ruin his trust in you.

    Another thing is if you develop the habit of lying to your boyfriends then you'll destroy every relationship you have in the future. That includes your marriage.

    If he's not ok with it because he's too immature then you should dump him because nobody and I mean nobody should stop you from following your dreams.

    Btw, how very rude of you to not upload and share a video with me ;)

    :P...

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    • sin_j23
      9 years ago | pl

      Shut up meg

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago | pl

        LOL just because you want to see her in a thong.

        Get a girlfriend nerd.

        :)

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  • CRuNKShaNK
    9 years ago | pl

    maybe if you just got completely naked he'd understand

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  • AutumnEquinox
    9 years ago | pl

    It's not being dishonest nor are you hiding anything from him. This is just another routine of what you do. He could easily look up information on stage performances and see this is what happens when a quick change of costume is called for. I was in a relationship where I told my bf EVERYTHING and honestly I believe that played a major part in what ruined the relationship. You should never tell your partner trivial aspects of your life that have no meaning, that will only upset them.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago | pl

      More stupid chick thinking :
      "It's not being dishonest nor are you hiding anything from him."

      Bullshit.
      Some of you people are so stupid and you encourage others to be just like you.

      The OP knows she's doing something wrong which is why she's posting here.

      She KNOWS other guys are perving out on her and she intentionally wears a thong to turn them on AND she's not telling her boyfriend.

      Stop pretending to be so stupid.

      "This is just another routine of what you do. "

      Bullshit. She's intentionally knowingly leading guys on letting them peep on her and she's hiding it from her boyfriend.

      So by your thinking if she was 'secretly' being a stripper making money she shouldn't tell her boyfriend because it's just 'another routine' she does right ?

      Such stupid thinking.

      "He could easily look up information on stage performances and see this is what happens when a quick change of costume is called for."
      Are you kidding me? When in a relationship it's expect you tell your partner this kind of stuff. Anything sexual or people seeing you naked/whatever is expected to shared with your partner.

      And according to you he could easily go to strip clubs and see her there and find out for himself.

      So if you start dating a guy and fall in love with him then you later learn he's a convicted rapist but he never told you you're not going to think he kept secrets from you? Idiot.

      This is what he'd say :
      "Hey, YOU could of done an investigation and learned about his past. You didn't so it's YOUR fault."

      Decent, moral, honest people that respect their relationship disclose things that would be of concern to their mates because it's the right thing to do.

      "I was in a relationship where I told my bf EVERYTHING and honestly I believe that played a major part in what ruined the relationship."

      Nope, it's because you're incredibly stupid and you have no idea how to respect a relationship or your mate.

      " You should never tell your partner trivial aspects of your life that have no meaning, that will only upset them."

      These aspects are not trivial. Her leading on these guys wearing a thong when she KNOWS they are sexually peeping on her is wrong. So is keeping it a secret. She is betraying her boyfriends trust.

      Not only that as another poster commented this kind of thing should not be allowed in high school. Peep holes? guys/girls getting basically naked together with school's approval. That's not what school is for and it just causes drama.

      Guys / girls should have separate changing areas without any peepholes or anything.

      The more of these posts I read on this site reminds me how stupid most of the population is.

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      • AutumnEquinox
        9 years ago | pl

        "The OP knows she's doing something wrong which is why she's posting here.

        She KNOWS other guys are perving out on her and she intentionally wears a thong to turn them on AND she's not telling her boyfriend."

        Wrong.

        WhitneyLynn
        1 month ago | pl
        "I always try to wear non revealing underwear, it was mainly just the first practice non of us knew we were gonna practice the costume change so at least half the girls were in thongs and all but one guy who's doing a solo come off stage with us so I know some of the guys were checking out the girls"

        I fail to see where she was doing anything intentionally wrong. She plainly states she did not know about the first costume change and that from there on she has tried to wear non reaveling undergarments.

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago | pl

          "I fail to see where she was doing anything intentionally wrong. She plainly states she did not know about the first costume change and that from there on she has tried to wear non reaveling undergarments."

          That's because you're probably a chick.

          "so I know some of the guys were checking out the girls,"

          Besides other things she's written she KNOWS guys are sexually checking her and other girls out.

          Btw, I probably didn't really read her later comment realizing it was hers because it wasn't part of the original post but that doesn't really change things much.

          "I always try to wear non revealing underwear,"

          Always try doesn't mean always do.

          " it was mainly just the first practice "

          'Mainly' just the first practice means it wasn't just the first practice.

          "non of us knew we were gonna practice the costume change so atleast half the girls were in thongs "

          That's her trying to make an excuse saying "Gee because other girls are doing it, I shouldn't feel bad for doing it too..."

          "I'm probably just going to tell him everything to keep his trust!"

          Exactly my point and I believe I wrote that.

          Just disclose everything and there should be no problem as long as you're not intentionally wearing sexy outfits turning guys on and hiding that from him.

          If you hide things from him you're going to ruin his trust and it will be your fault.

          Think I'm wrong :

          Here's her other posts :

          "So, I absolutely love to wear dresses and skirts. I just love pretty and free I feel in them. I love how they sway when I walk, I love how it attracts attention from boys, and I love getting compliments about how my outfit looks.

          But, one thing I really love doing is not wearing panties under them. It makes me feel SO sexy. The feeling the open air in my privates is an amazing feeling. Also, it gives boys easy access :)

          Any other girls do this? If not I highly recommend it."
          http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-not-wear-panties-with-skirtsdresses-165135/#comment-1632190

          "So Josh and I have been dating for almost 2 years and we've been having sex for a majority of that time and I've only had sex with one other guy my entire life. So the other night he asks me if I wanna have a three way and I was assuming he meant with me and another girl so I told him I didn't really want to, but then he told me he meant with his close friend David. I'm not sure if he just doesn't care anymore and wants his friends penis in me or if he loves me enough to where we could try some new things sexually. Either way I want to make him happy, but don't think I can fit two dicks inside me anybody with some experience know what I should do?"

          http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-my-boyfriend-wants-to-have-a-three-way-with-another-guy-166092/#comment-1632490

          Yes... she's a real innocent girl not doing anything wrong, lol.

          You people are fools.

          Btw, please let us know what happens and I like your pic.
          You're a cutie ;)

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  • tuvwxyz
    10 years ago | pl

    They do this in High School???? Do the parents know about this? Im thinking this probably shouldnt be going on in High School.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    Ok, ok, ok, oh....it's a lie.

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