Obviously there are more sides to this story than is presented here. I do want to say that I do work, out of necessity but there is a lot more than that to respect.
Generally I have read above how many non working teens tend to play video games etc at home and don't have jobs. But to play those games they are also living in a relaxed financially stable home.
It concerns me when the 'rich' state they do things for themselves without help and proud of it, when in reality they were given a safe warm (or cooled in summer) home that provided ALL healthy food, ALL home conveniences (clothes dryer, large entertainment areas or TVs, spacious rooms, quality clothing, All health needs met (and further), All schooling paid for, All the comforts of a princess or prince in their free powered (usually solar powered too) homes.
There is just so much more to these 'independent' teens who live in luxury. They tend to have well looked after pets who provide love, they also circle with others of wealth and enjoy wonderful parties, weddings even births with all expenses paid. Plus if things do go wrong with the house they live its just a quick phone call (or Internet booking) to the local tradesman to fix everything straight away.
This list could go on and on, I'll was just thinking as I wrote.
The real issue is with the ones not so well off. Where even your standard health needs: proper food for body and mind, and proper repairs to their very old cars and housing needs etc etc etc indirectly causes these people not to be able to present themselves properly for interviews and any reasonable job.
Its a catch 22, the poorer you are the harder it is to find work. If I (anyone) was able to associate with business managers and owners or highly professional people on a regular basis, whilst my shining white straight teeth and healthy alert looks wearing smart clothing holding onto my wealth of experience (overseas travel and education) then I'd say employment opportunities would be easily available.
But for people (such as myself and family) who struggle at the maximum deciding if we are eating anything worth more than $10 tonight in our tiny affordable houses! Looking for work, especially work that we would want to work at! Is harder than I could describe.
I'm not alone in my poverty in our modern rich western culture. I'd go as far as saying as MOST people live poor. By the way, my phone company just called me about 10 mins ago and stated because I haven't paid my phone bill (and subsequently internet service, which is concerning since that's probably my only real social enjoyment) that I have incurred a $15.... OMG, my son just got home and said he can't help with rent this month (due in 3 days), isn't it ironic that it always happens at the same time!! So we're fckd.
Anyway, my point here. Sometimes teens who stay home on games is NOT because they are lazy, but because they are struggling so much that life is just seemingly going backwards for them everytime they try to move ahead.
Whereas 'rich kids', well, I wish they knew what's really happening in their 'independent (lol) life.
I'm not sure if you caught it but I did say "adults who gleefully live off their parents", and I should elaborate, they were 25 and 26 at the time. Very much out of their teenage years. And both were VERY well off, in large houses and driving luxury cars given to them by their parents, with every need imaginable taken care of. They had all the advantages they'd ever need and they choose to do nothing with their lives. Those are the type of people I'm referring to.
I suppose if I was that comfortable my financially at their age, I'd probably do a degree in forestry (always liked that but ended up in technology!) OR I'd become a teacher/helper in some disadvantaged place, even overseas (seems to be the standard thing to do).
To sit at home for days would be ok, weeks a bit concerning, months I'd be worried about their psychology of their ever decaying mind, forever I'd have to assume lazy and mentally disabled!
So I do understand your concern, its not normal especially when you worked, it would have been irritating (wait I'll read again to see if you are still dating this person... oh "it eventually ended the relationships") Ok, I agree it would have been extremely frustrating, I'm sorry you were not fully understood by them (boyfriend and friends).
Hey that reminds me. A long time ago (when I was still in my computer career earning a lot) I serviced someone's computer at their home (mansion, Lotus is driveway, rich area, possibly wealthiest area in the entire city area).
We got to the point of salary where I openly told him I earned about a $800 a week (they were the days!) Anyway, he said, 'Oh my, I give each child that much for pocket money'. I politely continued in my normal friendly manner but I've never forgot what he said. I'm pretty sure I've passed by his age now. These days I'm lucky to see $50 remaining ever, pocket money for the 'kids' is non existent, but I'll check later on today if I can afford milk!!
IIN to not respect people who don't want to work?
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Obviously there are more sides to this story than is presented here. I do want to say that I do work, out of necessity but there is a lot more than that to respect.
Generally I have read above how many non working teens tend to play video games etc at home and don't have jobs. But to play those games they are also living in a relaxed financially stable home.
It concerns me when the 'rich' state they do things for themselves without help and proud of it, when in reality they were given a safe warm (or cooled in summer) home that provided ALL healthy food, ALL home conveniences (clothes dryer, large entertainment areas or TVs, spacious rooms, quality clothing, All health needs met (and further), All schooling paid for, All the comforts of a princess or prince in their free powered (usually solar powered too) homes.
There is just so much more to these 'independent' teens who live in luxury. They tend to have well looked after pets who provide love, they also circle with others of wealth and enjoy wonderful parties, weddings even births with all expenses paid. Plus if things do go wrong with the house they live its just a quick phone call (or Internet booking) to the local tradesman to fix everything straight away.
This list could go on and on, I'll was just thinking as I wrote.
The real issue is with the ones not so well off. Where even your standard health needs: proper food for body and mind, and proper repairs to their very old cars and housing needs etc etc etc indirectly causes these people not to be able to present themselves properly for interviews and any reasonable job.
Its a catch 22, the poorer you are the harder it is to find work. If I (anyone) was able to associate with business managers and owners or highly professional people on a regular basis, whilst my shining white straight teeth and healthy alert looks wearing smart clothing holding onto my wealth of experience (overseas travel and education) then I'd say employment opportunities would be easily available.
But for people (such as myself and family) who struggle at the maximum deciding if we are eating anything worth more than $10 tonight in our tiny affordable houses! Looking for work, especially work that we would want to work at! Is harder than I could describe.
I'm not alone in my poverty in our modern rich western culture. I'd go as far as saying as MOST people live poor. By the way, my phone company just called me about 10 mins ago and stated because I haven't paid my phone bill (and subsequently internet service, which is concerning since that's probably my only real social enjoyment) that I have incurred a $15.... OMG, my son just got home and said he can't help with rent this month (due in 3 days), isn't it ironic that it always happens at the same time!! So we're fckd.
Anyway, my point here. Sometimes teens who stay home on games is NOT because they are lazy, but because they are struggling so much that life is just seemingly going backwards for them everytime they try to move ahead.
Whereas 'rich kids', well, I wish they knew what's really happening in their 'independent (lol) life.
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I'm not sure if you caught it but I did say "adults who gleefully live off their parents", and I should elaborate, they were 25 and 26 at the time. Very much out of their teenage years. And both were VERY well off, in large houses and driving luxury cars given to them by their parents, with every need imaginable taken care of. They had all the advantages they'd ever need and they choose to do nothing with their lives. Those are the type of people I'm referring to.
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I agree with you.
I suppose if I was that comfortable my financially at their age, I'd probably do a degree in forestry (always liked that but ended up in technology!) OR I'd become a teacher/helper in some disadvantaged place, even overseas (seems to be the standard thing to do).
To sit at home for days would be ok, weeks a bit concerning, months I'd be worried about their psychology of their ever decaying mind, forever I'd have to assume lazy and mentally disabled!
So I do understand your concern, its not normal especially when you worked, it would have been irritating (wait I'll read again to see if you are still dating this person... oh "it eventually ended the relationships") Ok, I agree it would have been extremely frustrating, I'm sorry you were not fully understood by them (boyfriend and friends).
Hey that reminds me. A long time ago (when I was still in my computer career earning a lot) I serviced someone's computer at their home (mansion, Lotus is driveway, rich area, possibly wealthiest area in the entire city area).
We got to the point of salary where I openly told him I earned about a $800 a week (they were the days!) Anyway, he said, 'Oh my, I give each child that much for pocket money'. I politely continued in my normal friendly manner but I've never forgot what he said. I'm pretty sure I've passed by his age now. These days I'm lucky to see $50 remaining ever, pocket money for the 'kids' is non existent, but I'll check later on today if I can afford milk!!
Yes, I see your point.