Is it normal to not relate to the relationships of people my age?

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some background: I've only had relationships from in high school, the first I lost my virginity to b/c I felt pressured into sex in order to keep him, the second cheated on me multiple times and was too into drugs/alcohol. I was making bad choices with bad people.. I really didn't have true friends in high school either, they're still into drugs and I'm not that kind of person anymore.

now that I'm nearly 22, I haven't had any new romantic relationships in college or new friendships that weren't the oh-I'm friends w/ you just to have something to do on Saturday night- kind. I've kinda dated, but these were short-lived. I even haven't had sex in two years, and I feel like I'm so removed from how people are in relationships these days.

I don't understand how people can connect so easily, fall in love, or even get to the point of wanting to marry at the age of 22. I don't even know how to have a best friend or normal boyfriend..

Maybe I'm over-defensive and worry about falling into the wrong crowd of people like I did before. I don't know if something's wrong with me.. IIN?

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  • mumoffive
    13 years ago | pl

    sometimes we all make these mistakes for a reason.
    i keep being attracted to men that are drug dependent and although i love them there is an under lying reason as to y i do this.
    i think its bcause i think i am not worth anymore, but u seem to have already worked out for yourself what sorta people u dont want to be with and i think u sound like u know what u want so get back out there hunn u will be right.
    if not go and see a shrink and work out why u attract these people then go from there. xxx

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago | pl

    It's normal to worry that you will meet the sane kind of people but if you have changed scenery and whatnot you have a chance to change how things used to be. Just be on guard with people right off. Don't be so trusting until they earn your trust.

    I'm 23 and madly in love with my year and a half boyfriend but that was after some really crappy relationships. You just need to remember what you didn't like in those other guys and make sure to steer clear from guys like that if you can help it.

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