Is it normal to not like your friends?

alright so me and my friend are pretty much nothing alike. she is so judgemental and rude, where as i try to be respectful. it drives me crazy when she starts talking about people and how she hates them and calsl them names. its difficult to have a convosation with her without her turning it into something gross and/or perverted. i try to just laugh it off but im not majorly perverted like her. i feel like i need to find new friends but i cant. i mean i get a long ok with pretty much anyone, but its not like i can just become new friends with someone. its really difficult for me to make new friends unless they make the first move. my friend just seriously is so inconsiderate and idk how to deal with it. she even will start making fun of me. she says she joking but it still bothers me. when im talking to her and im in the middle of saying something to her she will out of no where be like "cuz u looked at it" "maybe it saw ur face" "omg that looks like your mom,(ur,Brother, etc) face!" and so on, i think u get the point. she thinks im stupid for things i do and care about, which is ok imean everyone has there opinion, but its everything. ill be talking to someone who might be a little nerdy or dorky or something and she will come out of nowhere and be like "dude shut up no one was even talking to u no one likes u ur so annoying" and ill feel so bad. i mean we do have fun together and we r great friends but i think i could have a better one, but she is the only one that i think i can actually say is my friend. we r just so different and i dont know wat to do...

Is It Normal?
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  • I, and most people I know, define a friend as someone who you care for/love, who you like to spend time with, who makes you feel good about yourself (especially when you're down), who backs you when you're right and gently tells you when you're wrong - and vice versa, obviously.
    The person you described does not sound like a friend to me. I can understand your concern with loneliness and making new friends, and I can definitely understand a sense of loyalty if you and this person were friends for a long time, but I think by now your dislike and discomfort outweigh either of those. Just let her drift away - stop asking her to hang out, sit somewhere different in classes or at lunch (I assume you're in school?). Start with little changes and slowly let the distance grow. That way no one's feelings get hurt.
    As for new friends, I know it's scary, but if you high/middle school/college/workplace is anything like mine, people aren't against new friends. Even if they aren't looking to make new friends like you are, they probably won't say "Sorry, my friend quota is full. I don't need you in my life."
    Sit at new tables with new people and listen to their conversations. You'll be able to tell who you like, and then you just sit with them more often. Smile when they smile at you. Make a comment or a joke when you are comfortable enough (it may be a while, you sound shy!). You'll probably get new friends just by sitting by someone long enough!
    Good luck to you!

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  • With a "friend" like that... It's normal.

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  • i have the same situation :O

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  • i have the same question xD

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