I can understand getting frustrated with a child - I feel like that is a normal feeling experienced by a majority of parents. When that frustration turns to hate though, that is when it is a problem.
I have a stepdaughter (Mia) and sometimes she expects whatever she wants when she wants it. Step parents have to learn to say no and that giving step children whatever they want does mean they will end up loving you. I used to hate saying no and never wanted to seem like the bad guy, but I realized if I didn't she would become a spoiled brat and would walk all over me. Giving her whatever she wants will only make things worse in the future.
How old is your step daughter? My stepdaughter is 8 and she hates cleaning her room (no kid actually enjoys that).
Also, that rolling of the eyes thing is happening too. But whenever she does it she gets called out on it and punished. How is your boyfriend at disciplining her? If he never disciplines her and always let's that stuff slide, he needs to stick up for you and stop those habits ASAP.
Thank you, you're right. I don't call her out on it really, but you're right about her father. He would definately be the best one to get through to her. I feel that someone might be saying something to her on the side though, she will be very careful and respectful at other times even when we are alone. She will say yes maam, no maam, ect, and ask my permission for things cincering her brother and other things. That makes me feel happier to let her hang out with him and have little responsibilities with her brother, and we get along much better then. He is almost like a reward to her for good behaviour.
Thank you, she's 6. Overall, she's a very sweet girl, especially when she wants to be, lol. I see that some people have the misconception that I "hate" her, which is the furthest thing from the truth. I love this little girl, truely, I only had bad, strange feelings that I couldn't understand or put my finger on at times. What helps me out sometimes is remembering that she has her own mother that is very actively in her life and that it is not my job to be her mother, otherwise it might be perceived that I am trying to take her mother's place, which I am not. I only want us all to get along and for everyone to get proper attention and to share and for everyone to know that they are deeply loved. I know that we won't ALWAYS get along, that there will be a time or two that we might bump heads in the future. It was only important to me that I make the best steps to the best of my knowledge and ability. I want to be a good mom to both children and a good (one day) wife. I'm sure that it will come with time and experience and making a few mistakes along the way and learning from them.
I really appreciate your input.
Is it normal to not like your boyfriend's child anymore???
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I can understand getting frustrated with a child - I feel like that is a normal feeling experienced by a majority of parents. When that frustration turns to hate though, that is when it is a problem.
I have a stepdaughter (Mia) and sometimes she expects whatever she wants when she wants it. Step parents have to learn to say no and that giving step children whatever they want does mean they will end up loving you. I used to hate saying no and never wanted to seem like the bad guy, but I realized if I didn't she would become a spoiled brat and would walk all over me. Giving her whatever she wants will only make things worse in the future.
How old is your step daughter? My stepdaughter is 8 and she hates cleaning her room (no kid actually enjoys that).
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Also, that rolling of the eyes thing is happening too. But whenever she does it she gets called out on it and punished. How is your boyfriend at disciplining her? If he never disciplines her and always let's that stuff slide, he needs to stick up for you and stop those habits ASAP.
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Thank you, you're right. I don't call her out on it really, but you're right about her father. He would definately be the best one to get through to her. I feel that someone might be saying something to her on the side though, she will be very careful and respectful at other times even when we are alone. She will say yes maam, no maam, ect, and ask my permission for things cincering her brother and other things. That makes me feel happier to let her hang out with him and have little responsibilities with her brother, and we get along much better then. He is almost like a reward to her for good behaviour.
Thank you, she's 6. Overall, she's a very sweet girl, especially when she wants to be, lol. I see that some people have the misconception that I "hate" her, which is the furthest thing from the truth. I love this little girl, truely, I only had bad, strange feelings that I couldn't understand or put my finger on at times. What helps me out sometimes is remembering that she has her own mother that is very actively in her life and that it is not my job to be her mother, otherwise it might be perceived that I am trying to take her mother's place, which I am not. I only want us all to get along and for everyone to get proper attention and to share and for everyone to know that they are deeply loved. I know that we won't ALWAYS get along, that there will be a time or two that we might bump heads in the future. It was only important to me that I make the best steps to the best of my knowledge and ability. I want to be a good mom to both children and a good (one day) wife. I'm sure that it will come with time and experience and making a few mistakes along the way and learning from them.
I really appreciate your input.