"I'm probably just complaining" is about right. Don't understate the changes you've been going through with a baby, move in with boyfriend, blended family etc..
And step back. If those are big changes for you, imagine what they are to a five year old.
Be gentle, loving and kind, as this will build a trusting and constructive bond with the child. Redirect her but avoid negative interactions and ignore any of hers.
You really need to step back and let go of some of the bad feelings you are building up. You don't need her approval - and again - she is a child so put her silly behaviour in perspective and give it time.
Thank you. I always, pause when she says something... not quite so nice. She is only a child and not even mine so I hardly ever say anythong unless it is very serious. I understand fully that it must be very confusing for her, so i always play with her, have little child conversations with her, play games, show her attention... so on. I've come to realize that my feelings were stemming from a small silly jealousy. Being in a very new relationship and being a new mother was making me emotional, and i feel that I might've been going through a little phase where I needed to know that I was loved, and needed attention; feelings of insecurity. Boyfriend and I finally sat down one night and had a heart to heart (not about his little girl because she isn't a problem at all, my feelings were), and talked about the changes in our relationship. And I found my bad feelings draining away. We are all good now, thank you very much for your sound input. :)
Is it normal to not like your boyfriend's child anymore???
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"I'm probably just complaining" is about right. Don't understate the changes you've been going through with a baby, move in with boyfriend, blended family etc..
And step back. If those are big changes for you, imagine what they are to a five year old.
Be gentle, loving and kind, as this will build a trusting and constructive bond with the child. Redirect her but avoid negative interactions and ignore any of hers.
You really need to step back and let go of some of the bad feelings you are building up. You don't need her approval - and again - she is a child so put her silly behaviour in perspective and give it time.
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This is really great advice! Good job.
Thank you. I always, pause when she says something... not quite so nice. She is only a child and not even mine so I hardly ever say anythong unless it is very serious. I understand fully that it must be very confusing for her, so i always play with her, have little child conversations with her, play games, show her attention... so on. I've come to realize that my feelings were stemming from a small silly jealousy. Being in a very new relationship and being a new mother was making me emotional, and i feel that I might've been going through a little phase where I needed to know that I was loved, and needed attention; feelings of insecurity. Boyfriend and I finally sat down one night and had a heart to heart (not about his little girl because she isn't a problem at all, my feelings were), and talked about the changes in our relationship. And I found my bad feelings draining away. We are all good now, thank you very much for your sound input. :)