Is it normal to not know if you're asexual?

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i get horny and have urges to have sex when I'm alone. but i don't like to masturbate, i want to have sex with another person, but i am never sexually attracted to another real person. when ever i am with another person i am never horny and i am never in the mood for sex.

i don't picture sex in a perfect relationship. there would be cuddling and lots of talking. i feel very mentally attracted to people. but when put in one on one situations with guys that i have considered my 'crushes' and they try to hook up with me, i find i make lots of excuses not to..

is it possible i am asexual? i get emotionally attached/attracted to people, i never get sexually attracted to people, but i do get horny and want to have sex- but that goes away when i am with another person.. its really frustrating actually.

do i have to never fantasize about sex to be asexual? any guesses on what my orientation is? please comment.

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  • Avant-Garde
    8 years ago | pl

    I don't think that you're an asexual.

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  • Shrunk
    11 years ago | pl

    I am like that too nd interesting you say real people don't make you feel like that? What does it? for me its certain cartoon characters (i know its weird) and as its been said i think it could be more of a mental problem than proper orientation, although asexuals can still get turned on it's not by anything but their own will to, i think. there is something called ''demisexual'' that might describe it... but I don't think it's abnormal, youre just looking for someone who is deeply special to you before you can want anything more with them

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  • curintedery
    11 years ago | pl

    As an asexual, I would say it doesn't sound like you are. If you have urges to have sex, and find other people sexually arousing/stimulating, it means you are not asexual. What you have sounds more emotional or mental.

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  • ThatUglyDoll
    11 years ago | pl

    Asexuality (sometimes referred to as nonsexuality) in its broadest sense, is the lack of sexual attraction to others or the lack of interest in sex. It may also be considered a lack of a sexual orientation. One commonly cited study published in 2004 placed the prevalence of asexuality at 1%.

    Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy, which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual's personal or religious beliefs; sexual orientation, unlike sexual behavior, is believed to be "enduring". Some asexuals do engage in sexual activity despite lacking a desire for sex or sexual attraction, due to a variety of reasons, such as a desire to please romantic partners.

    Only recently has asexuality started to become accepted as a sexual orientation and a field of scientific research; though a growing body of research from both sociological and psychological perspectives has begun to coalesce. While some researchers assert that asexuality is a sexual orientation, others disagree, and various asexual communities have started to form since the advent of the Internet and social media. The most prolific and well-known of these communities has been the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), which was founded in 2001.

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