Is it normal to not know if you are pretty or not?

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My whole life I've never considered myself very attractive. I was overweight until I was about 12, then I hit puberty and lost some of it, but I'm still not a stick and probably never will be. Until recently, I never thought that I was good looking, but just this year everyone has started telling me I'm pretty/hot/beautiful all the time, but I don't know if I should believe them. I'm used to seeing myself an ugly child. The other day I saw a cute guy looking at me and I think he was checking me out and I was really surprised because my whole life I thought that cute guys were out of my league, but now I'm starting to think differently. My friends all say that I need more confidence, but I don't know how to start looking at myself differently!

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  • Jake989
    13 years ago | pl

    In your case, yes it is normal. What all it is, is a little lack of confidence. I don't mean this to be harsh but it's true. What happened is you got used to being unnatractive to most people you grew up and from the way you told us became pretty,cute,hot,sexy,and or beautiful. I have seem it alot. Ugly girls go from ugly in highschool and you see them a couple years later their smokin hot. Which is the reason you have lack of confidence. Which you shouldn't anyways. Just don't be a stuck up bitch and people will still like you. Don't go all OCD on your looks either. But you should have confidence anyways. I see huge Fat women wearing belly shirts that say hottie. Haha. So go out there and be confident and be happy. Don't worry how you look because there will be someone out there tht will love you for who you are. If you are beautiful them it's just a bonus. Be happy and goodluck to ya.

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  • lilleylenz
    12 years ago | pl

    Omigosh the EXACT SAME THING happened to me!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Girls universally feel the need to be attractive.

    But basically the above poster is right. You can change your mentality by speaking out loud what you know is true.

    For the longest time when I brushed my teeth in the mornings I would say, "I can't be stopped. No man can no victory against me. I am strength. Mine is power."

    It works.

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago | pl

    You decide to do it. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. You are beautiful. Lovely. Wonderful. Fabulous. Amazing.

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  • wiip100
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm used to people calling me burf, and I often agree: I'm rather repulsive- very spotty :(. When I see photos of myself from the past I think 'ew', but recently, If I just catch a glance of myself in a mirror I'm beginning to think 'not bad'- really don't like thinking this cos I feel pig-headed :(

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  • dstar
    13 years ago | pl

    Everyone is beautiful, Its just your inner-self knocking you down.

    And not matter what someone, somewhere will think your beautiful to.

    Chin up. :)

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  • visionary
    13 years ago | pl

    It is normal-hate to say it, but you have to remember that no one is going to think you're beautiful until you know you're beautiful. Even if you're still building your confidence up, walk with your head up high and a smile on your face. Guarantee, it'll make you feel good.

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  • twixzy
    13 years ago | pl

    I dont know without seeing u. Do u look like a victorias secret supermodel? If u do then chances are that u r pretty

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