Is it normal to not know

Being what you like to be is closer to being who you are.

Why do you need to label yourself? Wear the clothes you want, color your hair according to what you like, and live your life.

I was in the same mind set as you, desperately trying to work myself out. Then one day I realised that that's what growing up and being a teenager is about; it's all about trying to find your identity. You will go through phases, some things will last and some won't. My advice is to try everything out and ask yourself which personality you felt was the most "you." You could even do what I did, I took aspects of different personas and pieced them together into something i liked and felt comfortable with.
No label can make you... You make you, and only you can do that.
I'm sorry to hear about your cutting, it's a hard habit to break.
Message me if you ever need to.

you're a bull dyke

You are who you are. Dress the way you want whenever you want. Why do you find the need to categorize yourself?

yep just be your self is all you need to be

i agree, just be yourself. you can be "emo" as it is known, or you can be that, girly and more. you do not need to conform to labels and certain traits attached to them. create your own label!