Is it normal to not honor your parents since they're deadbeats?

i agree but these are not "people" they are your mother and father.
did they feed you and shelter you and enable you to have friends and fun at times?
or did they actively go out of their way to harm you or profit from you?
if its the latter they have severed the tie that binds and drop them like a stone if you want. if the former, be grateful to them, you r mother worked hard in labour having you if nothing else

I think that you don't have to partake in their toxicness to honor them. Simply you can honor them by always being polite when you are around them but by also having strict boundries that prohibit them from harming you.

Buddy I am not the kind to tell anyone what to do but I think its best to just "honor" them (as it were) for the sole fact they either gave birth to you or help concieve you. Now whether you do that or not is none of my business but thats just my thoughts.

im from an asian family too, filipinos and my mom is crazy about family. Shes always saying 'respect your elders' or 'family before anything' at this point i just roll my eyes and think, ill respect you when i think you deserve it. of course my mom always throws the whole 'sacrifices ive made for you' and in truth of course i love her. But just to annoy them....

I would say your attitude may change if / when you have their own children and realise just how much work it actually does involve to raise a child - assuming of course your parents weren't drunks / drug addicts / abusers and were just normal selfish beings.

For many years I couldn't understand why my mother was so hateful and bitter. Now, looking back I don't know how she coped, raising 5 of us as a single parent! She was determined to educate us all, even though she had very little money and I suppose that as teenagers the last thing we all wanted was schooling! However, now I look at my sister with loads of money who doesn't give a shit what state her children go to school and can't be bothered to discipline them - as long as she has a man, and I think she is soooooo wrong. She is determined not to 'sacrifice' her life the way my mother did, but who was / is right?

I totally honor my mother, but have no respect or honor for my father. They are married but I like one more over the other. i love them both, but only respect my mum. So I think its compleatly normal. They gave birth to you but that doesn't mean you have to pleadge your life to them.

Agreed. Only honor those that deserve it in the first place. My mother has done so much crap to me that I don't care WHAT people say, just because she gave birth to me (Which was half assed by the way because she was high off drugs. yup, Crackbaby... Thanks mom T_T) Doesn't mean jack shit! She didn't raise me, (Thank god for grand parent) So why should I respect someone who doesn't respect me? She is finally stepping up as a mother to my younger brothers (6 and 7 years too late. I raise them as babies... Thanks mom T_T) But the boys don't mind, So she still has a chance with them. But if they havent done irreparable damage, At least be kind unless prompted to act otherwise.

I agree with you. My father is a deadbeat therefore I have no respect for him and sometimes you just gotta deal with it.

I concur with devilla.