Is it normal to not have any real friends?

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I'm 28 and have no friends outside of work. I went back to school a couple years ago (graduated a year ago) and used that as an excuse for whenever anyone asked why I didn't have girlfriend and don't date ("too busy", same excuse I used through high school and college). All of my coworkers are 10+ years older than me with families so I can't really do much with them outside of work. I don't drink and I am not into music so I don't hang out at bars or clubs. The few friends I had in college and high school live 2 states away so we don't talk anymore. My relatives all live halfway across country. Now I am trying to get a new job to move away while simultaneously applying to go back to school again for a second masters degree, and I am now realizing that I think I am doing it just because I am so lonely and want to meet new people. At work I am generally an outgoing person and everyone seems to like me, so I don't think I'm a complete outcast...

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  • runnergirl
    14 years ago

    Unfortunately yes. This happens because of how our society is set up. People move away from friends and family and spend so much time at work. It's a shame.

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  • confuse
    14 years ago

    Yes, you are completely normal ...

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Don't listen to him. Everyone is different and you are like alot of other people : )

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  • SDDA
    11 years ago

    I don't have any real friends either, I don't think, but for different reasons. Maybe instead of going back to school to find girls, it's time you get qicker access at clubs and bars :P

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
    11 years ago

    awwww. you sound like you have a lot to offer. do you do anything else besides school like volunteer at a local religious institution? maybe you could meet someone there.

    or maybe at the gym?

    i think you;ll find someone. there's a timing for everything.

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  • Neapolitana
    11 years ago

    Go online and find social groups that are meeting in your area. Book club, sports teams, church group, etc. MeetUp.com is a good website for this. I have often found myself in your position, and hate that lonely feeling:( There are lots of people like you who need more opportunities for socializing. Find/make your opportunities:)

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    BE a real friend.

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  • pinkdroid
    14 years ago

    It may be normal for now but not in the long run.. Its ok to be alone for a period of time but do you feel lonely? Humans are essentially social creatures, and even for the introverts, we still need people around us. You don't want to end up being lonesome with no source of emotional or moral support in your later years do you?its true that true friends are hard to find,
    But they need not be someone whom you've known your whole life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You are an outcast and u are only going back to college to pretend u have friends and pretend u have plans. So u need to make some new friends

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