I think that it´s really hard to get everything you want from the same person. I´ve heard from more than one person that I actually do consent to mostly everything (My limit is when my health is in concern) this makes my craving rather big and wide.
But it seems like the guys that would be able to give me sexually 200% what I want is ass-hats and hence not people I would want to be engaged with anyway.
My past two sexual partners (Also boyfriends) has been a bit too less frequent with longer scenes than my general taste, but I pick that any day over being with someone that does not seem to respect the few boundaries that I actually have.
Still working on trying to make my boyfriend understand that I can take it, but it´s reassuring to know that he cares.
I´m the same, outside of it no one controls me- We are a team. If anything I am the one that craves the most control of things.
it´s sort of silly to spend that amount of money on toys, I buy things cheap from ebay and some year ago I bought a really really nice horse-whip in black and red that really does look more like a fancy human-whip. FOr only 29 sek! Which is 3,5 USD if that´s easier to convert.
Personally I think it's not just hard but impossible to get everything you want from one person and trying to force that is pointless and often manipulative.
You seem to have your own needs very well identified - good luck with getting more of what turns you on and yeah, I'd be sticking with your current feller if he's trustworthy about boundaries, the alternative is far too dangerous in all respects.
Just a suggestion: how about "more more" when you want him to go further? Assuming you haven't already tried that ........
Oh, when we are on it It´s good. It´s just getting him there that is not as frequent as I would want it too.
And since he does a lot of things to turn me on and it drives me crazy just being near him it´s easily forgotten too.
But he loves it when I suggest that he gets on his back and I suck him off for as long as he whips me. Hard to decline.
IIN to not get sexual pleasure when boyfriend consents to bondage?
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I think that it´s really hard to get everything you want from the same person. I´ve heard from more than one person that I actually do consent to mostly everything (My limit is when my health is in concern) this makes my craving rather big and wide.
But it seems like the guys that would be able to give me sexually 200% what I want is ass-hats and hence not people I would want to be engaged with anyway.
My past two sexual partners (Also boyfriends) has been a bit too less frequent with longer scenes than my general taste, but I pick that any day over being with someone that does not seem to respect the few boundaries that I actually have.
Still working on trying to make my boyfriend understand that I can take it, but it´s reassuring to know that he cares.
I´m the same, outside of it no one controls me- We are a team. If anything I am the one that craves the most control of things.
it´s sort of silly to spend that amount of money on toys, I buy things cheap from ebay and some year ago I bought a really really nice horse-whip in black and red that really does look more like a fancy human-whip. FOr only 29 sek! Which is 3,5 USD if that´s easier to convert.
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Personally I think it's not just hard but impossible to get everything you want from one person and trying to force that is pointless and often manipulative.
You seem to have your own needs very well identified - good luck with getting more of what turns you on and yeah, I'd be sticking with your current feller if he's trustworthy about boundaries, the alternative is far too dangerous in all respects.
Just a suggestion: how about "more more" when you want him to go further? Assuming you haven't already tried that ........
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Oh, when we are on it It´s good. It´s just getting him there that is not as frequent as I would want it too.
And since he does a lot of things to turn me on and it drives me crazy just being near him it´s easily forgotten too.
But he loves it when I suggest that he gets on his back and I suck him off for as long as he whips me. Hard to decline.
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You have a good thing going there, hold on to it as long as you can & remember no relationship is perfect anyway.
BDSM activity is so intense it can lead to an endless search for more and more and more ..... take it easy and enjoy what you have is my advice