Considering he cant use safe words, we have a safe tune...
I guess if I don't want to loose him or something worse than that, I probably should stick on the safe side.
Are you sure you know what you're doing? If he can't use a safe word because he's gagged how does he manage a tune? If I were him, I wouldn't trust you for a minute, bu then I guess he doesn't know about your rape fantasy, does he?
Oh, so you'll play safe in case you lose him of to prevent something worse, not because "playing" without consent is rape and wrong wrong WRONG
I see quite a contradiction here: you're hinting you want to do something to him without his consent? Can't you see that if he does guess what you want and consents, that's not what you want, and if he doesn't consent you really can't do it anyway? Surely it'd be better to let him know about your fantasy and if he agrees, act it out as if he's not consenting and see if you both enjoy that?
You do know the old saying in the BDSM world don't you? Fantasies are much hungrier than bodies: think about it.
In my opinion it's wrong because it's not consensual, not only because it's illegal. Do you do anything else without his consent?
I know I'm being somewhat pedantic about this, but having spent some time in the BDSM world and also worked in it for a while, I oknow there are lots of people who play safely and ethically but there are also a lot who don't, often the ones who espouse the highest principles regarding safety and consesnt but who forget them in the heat of the moment. I personally believe these practices can be addictive, in which case ethics often go out the window and someone gets hurt either physically or emotionally.
It´s normal to be turned on by the thought of rape-PLAY. But you must ask him for his consent.
"Hey, would you be cool with me attacking, restraining you and abusing you until you use the safe-word/signals"
If he says yes, go nuts.
A good Dom/Domina is observant, you should be alert enough to see and feel when you are starting to go too far with your submissive.
IIN to not get sexual pleasure when boyfriend consents to bondage?
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Considering he cant use safe words, we have a safe tune...
I guess if I don't want to loose him or something worse than that, I probably should stick on the safe side.
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Are you sure you know what you're doing? If he can't use a safe word because he's gagged how does he manage a tune? If I were him, I wouldn't trust you for a minute, bu then I guess he doesn't know about your rape fantasy, does he?
Oh, so you'll play safe in case you lose him of to prevent something worse, not because "playing" without consent is rape and wrong wrong WRONG
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Humming is the key... I keep hinting towards it but no, he does not know.
It's super llegally wrong but I also dont want to loose him.
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I see quite a contradiction here: you're hinting you want to do something to him without his consent? Can't you see that if he does guess what you want and consents, that's not what you want, and if he doesn't consent you really can't do it anyway? Surely it'd be better to let him know about your fantasy and if he agrees, act it out as if he's not consenting and see if you both enjoy that?
You do know the old saying in the BDSM world don't you? Fantasies are much hungrier than bodies: think about it.
In my opinion it's wrong because it's not consensual, not only because it's illegal. Do you do anything else without his consent?
I know I'm being somewhat pedantic about this, but having spent some time in the BDSM world and also worked in it for a while, I oknow there are lots of people who play safely and ethically but there are also a lot who don't, often the ones who espouse the highest principles regarding safety and consesnt but who forget them in the heat of the moment. I personally believe these practices can be addictive, in which case ethics often go out the window and someone gets hurt either physically or emotionally.
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Dont listen to me... Im having a hard time understanding my own feelings.
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It´s normal to be turned on by the thought of rape-PLAY. But you must ask him for his consent.
"Hey, would you be cool with me attacking, restraining you and abusing you until you use the safe-word/signals"
If he says yes, go nuts.
A good Dom/Domina is observant, you should be alert enough to see and feel when you are starting to go too far with your submissive.
It'd be better to use your reason rather than your feelings in this situation