Same here! I come from Chicago, but I go to school in a rural state college surrounded by cornfields. I've had so many comments about my race. Men often feel the need to approach me and tell me about how they'd never date me because I'm black, even though I have a long distance boyfriend and never romantically consider them to begin with. It's jarring, ESPECIALLY when they feel the need to describe why. I think it's no coincidence that these boys talk about how they "just don't like black women" and then go into a speech about how they're ghetto, loud, and uneducated. Your preference, in that case, is rooted in blatant racism.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that boyfriend though. It sounds annoying. I almost dated a guy who was similar. He then proceeded to tell me how I was lucky my ancestors were brought here as slaves, because if not I would have been "in a desert hut with my eighth child". Thank god I dodged that bullet.
Ugh good for you for finding someone not like any of these cornfield people. I'm sorry that you're experiencing what's going on there though!!
It just sucks to think about though because imo, places like that are never truly going to lose that racial streak. They can sit and be proud that they aren't treating black people poorly, but then talk like that and that's really not going to change. Personally, I have no idea how to fix those types of problems and it grates me A LOT.
Is it normal to not find black people sexually attractive?
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Same here! I come from Chicago, but I go to school in a rural state college surrounded by cornfields. I've had so many comments about my race. Men often feel the need to approach me and tell me about how they'd never date me because I'm black, even though I have a long distance boyfriend and never romantically consider them to begin with. It's jarring, ESPECIALLY when they feel the need to describe why. I think it's no coincidence that these boys talk about how they "just don't like black women" and then go into a speech about how they're ghetto, loud, and uneducated. Your preference, in that case, is rooted in blatant racism.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that boyfriend though. It sounds annoying. I almost dated a guy who was similar. He then proceeded to tell me how I was lucky my ancestors were brought here as slaves, because if not I would have been "in a desert hut with my eighth child". Thank god I dodged that bullet.
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Ugh good for you for finding someone not like any of these cornfield people. I'm sorry that you're experiencing what's going on there though!!
It just sucks to think about though because imo, places like that are never truly going to lose that racial streak. They can sit and be proud that they aren't treating black people poorly, but then talk like that and that's really not going to change. Personally, I have no idea how to fix those types of problems and it grates me A LOT.