Is it normal to not feel anything after a loved one has died?

Recently a close friend of mine, someone i looked up to, had committed suicide. I feel nothing after their passing. I feel like i should be devastated, but im not.

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85% Normal
Based on 33 votes (28 yes)
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Comments ( 11 )
  • Sometimes deaths take time until it hits me. Others it get to me instantly. Maybe after some time you’ll feel something.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Shock phase. Normal.

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  • RoseIsabella

    It's possible that you may be in disbelief, and still in shock about the person's decision to take their own life.

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  • McBean

    Reactions to an untimely death like this are many. But your lack of feeling does make a bit of sense. They traded their future life for nothingness. It may have been what they wanted.

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  • DeathXN

    Normal, when my grandma died when I was a kid I felt nothing too.

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  • LaughinSkull

    Had this happen with a few people I was close to that died. For some, I didn’t feel anything (even as time passed), for others, it took a while for my brain to realize that they were really gone forever.

    Don’t read into it OP. There’s a lot of things that go into mourning the loss of a loved one and it’s hard to predict how you’ll respond. It’s normal.

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  • chuy

    Felt same way you did when my paternal grandmother passed. There was no real connection there.

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  • Grunewald

    I felt the same when my grandmother died. She was my favourite relative. This is normal.

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    • Is she grandma Evans?

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      • Grunewald

        I don't have a Grandma Evans. Why?

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  • Guess you are still looking up to them... in heaven

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