Is it normal to not enjoy the sex, but still love my partner?

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I love my boyfriend, but am not sure if I am in love with him. We both have children from past realtionships. I have been with him over a year and I have never gotten off. I dont even fake it. He does do things to me, but just asumes I am done. I am 30 he is 40 and it is sooooo boaring. Also he think it is ok to wake me up at 6:30 in the morning on a weekend when I am up every day at 5:00 for work. He is driving me crazy. He is a really good boyfriend in every other way! Help!

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    You know for a fantastic sexual relationship, you both have to communicate and both be willing to fulfill the others desires and fantasies! But if you do not share this with him, your problems it will never get better. Every guy also wants great sex, so give him a chance, but he cannot do it alone, it takes both of you trying as hard as you can to keep it exciting and new! Good luck with your choices!

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    That sucks! He is so inconsiderate!!!

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    • colt1911
      12 years ago

      Its probably not that he is inconsiderate, its that she is not communicating what she wants in the sack, we are not mind readers, most guys take direction pretty well, IF YOU JUST TELL US!

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      • Its_Called_Love
        12 years ago

        Agreed I had a similar problem with my man, so we talked about it and I did a little "walk through" of what I like and how to do it. :) Its been great since.

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    COMMUNICATE!

    Have you told your boyfriend not to wake you up at 6:30. You may be in love and getting in tune but he's not a mind reader. If you don't tell him he'll keep annoying you then boom! You blow up. And to him it'll look like it came out of no where.

    As far as sex goes. He wants you to enjoy it. All guys want a girl that enjoys it. Maybe you could be on top. Or you can tell him what you like.

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  • Monogamy_Sucks
    12 years ago

    My nickname...is the answer to ur question...

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  • zenji
    12 years ago

    Huh? I can't have a boyfriend I don't want to fuck, I just don't get it.

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  • colorfulcutie(:
    12 years ago

    You should sit down and talk with him about everything! Just let him know how you feel(:

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  • thekat444
    12 years ago

    he can not know if ur done or not if u dont tell him, talk to him about all this that is bothering you, what can u loose?

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  • me1
    12 years ago

    Personally, I love the fact that my fiancé and I are very honest about our likes & dislikes extending to everything, including the bedroom.

    Assuming he's not a complete douche, he'll probably enjoy helping you climax!

    It sounds like there are other issues too, and your unhappiness with the relationship could easily keep you from climaxing...

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  • RandyMan23
    12 years ago

    Relationships are about communication and sharing. With this situation try and tell him that you don't feel you are getting anything out of sex and maybe then you can both consider spicing it up a little bit so therefore you can both enjoy it. Tell him what and how you like it so he knows what to do to satisfy you.

    And tell him what he does that annoys you so he knows that it does. Like FocoUS said, he can't read your mind so when you get to breaking point and explode, he is going to be confused and think it has come out of no where.

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  • aduusw
    12 years ago

    What's not normal is you telling us instead of him.

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  • gako
    12 years ago

    Damnnn, sucks to be you. How your still with him, i'll never know.

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  • icanhascheezburger
    12 years ago

    He is inconsiderate of your needs and feelings, that might be why you haven't gotten off. Best thing to do is talk to him about this, he needs to focus on you during that time and quit trying to satisfy his needs until yours are met. He may not know, show him, help him understand; you're probably frustrated, try to hang in there and work on it but If he doesn't want to try then move on.

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