Is it normal to not date men unless they meet my qualifications?

I don't think one can be "considered" attractive, you either are to someone the moment they see you or you aren't. What people are attracted to varies greatly, but it's not something you can change or improve upon, only fake.

I know people I hate in every way possible, but they're still attractive.

You're just wasting your own time. You'll be dead as a can of spam sometime in the next few decades, being picky about anything is just limiting your experience and enjoyment before the big choke.