Is it normal to not consider dating until i'm like 25?

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So I'm a 19 year old girl and I have never had a boyfriend. The reason for that is because I have always been too mature for my age and have never participated in anything where I can meet men I'd like. Anyway so I am like super attracted to like 30+ year old guys..or super mature 20 year olds--not that I have ever encountered with any-- and I've been this way for awhile now. No, I don't have daddy issues so spare me the comments on that. Lol. Well since I haven't really had a chance to meet any 30 year olds that would like me for me not my age, I have considered waiting until I'm like 25 that way I'd be closer to his age.

I know I shouldn't consider age and maturity as the same thing, but in my experiences it seems to be the issue. I haven't met mature guys my age like ever and if I dated a 30 year old today it would seem weird to our friends and family.. I know I shouldn't care about that either, but I just do. Lol anyway is it normal I don;t want to date until I'm like 25? Of course with the exception I meet someone before then, that seems to be just as mature as I'd like him to be.. Lol.

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  • Alison89
    11 years ago | pl

    I don't think it's unusual for someone to want to wait to date, however when you say you have always been mature for your age, keep in mind that there are different kinds of maturity.

    If you're 19 now, you've never had a boyfriend, and you plan to wait until you're 25 so you can date someone older, I think you will encounter a lot of problems that result from your own immaturity. If you've never been in a relationship, never had to break up with someone, or never had to deal with issues like petty jealousy, you're probably going to be very annoying, frustrating, and undesirable to someone who has likely been in several long-term relationships, and a divorce or two.

    That's why I think all those early relationships, even crushes and puppy love and those dates that didn't seem to mean anything are important. They give you the experience you need in maintaining a serious relationship when the time comes.

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  • carnage53
    11 years ago | pl

    Why 30yo man :?, usually guys at that age are:

    - Married
    - Divorced
    - Forever alone type
    - I have to consider my career
    - Or just plain manwhores

    I usually hate women like you because to you a man is just a checklist... is he 30? no, is he tall? yes, does he have money? yes, is he smart? no ... etc.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago | pl

    Personally I think you are very sensible. You should have your education and career sorted without any man holding you back by wanting your time and attention.

    I do agree with Alison89 that all relationships teach us lessons but at least you will be comfortable with yourself as a 'single' and not be one of those needy clingy and hence boring women men can't stand.

    I wish you all the luck in the world. Most women are too keen to tie themselves into relationships while they are still too young and should be out partying - without some man trying to control their actions.

    Good for you girl. Stick to your guns!

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