Is it normal to not be friends with your ex?

My break up with her was 2 weeks ago. she did it over text and apologized for that and apologized for being an awful girlfriend. She has a lot of problems, and the weeks leading up to this breakup I wasn't happy at all with her and didn't want to be with her but I prioritized her above me and thus threw away my self worth because I thought it would be wrong of me to give up on her like that with all shes gone through. She said she couldn't be in a relationship with me because of the guy named Dawson shes seen every summer for the past 4 years who she loves as she said, she also said that he makes her miserable and effects her life greatly and just the thought of him makes her not want to be in a relationship at all. At first I accepted it, I was and still am hurt but I have gone through my cycle of guilt regarding the relationship. I eventually came to my own conclusion that if I persist accepting this I am further disregarding my self worth and the effort I put in to be there for her regardless of how I felt and how bad she treated and was treating me. I feel like she cant keep blaming this Dawson guy and other reasons not mentioned for treating me like shit, I dont want much or anything to do with her and its hard because were in highschool (seniors) and she sits with all my friends from elementary school, they dont have a lot of girls in their life so my ex and whoever she brings along is great attention for them so I dont wanna be around that really. (ps: Im sorry for how rough this is, thank you for reading, any and all feedback is greatly appreciated)

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Based on 17 votes (14 yes)
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Comments ( 5 )
  • RoseIsabella

    You do what is best for you!

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  • JustMolly

    You don’t have to be friends with her, you are justified in your actions and no one can tell you who to like. As long as you keep it civil and don’t cause any drama by being rude to her (no matter how much she may deserve it) then I think it’s fine to not consider your ex your friend.

    I don’t think she’s going to get very far in life if she likes to blame her misdoings on other people, so maybe you forgiving her would be the worse thing to do for her as it may further teach her that she can get away with blaming other people when she is wrong.

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  • IrishPotato

    I'm friends with a total amount of 0 exes. It's not healthy for future relationships anyway.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Same.

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  • Tealights

    I never talk to any of my exes.

    You're about to go off to College/University, so don't sweat it. Just stay polite, and civil until graduation. Work hard so you can get a scholarship or something and once you graduate, you're off to start a new life where there's way more people and opportunities.

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