Is it normal to not be able to move on..

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So this girl I love can't make up her mind on how she feels about me. She claims she loves me too but we're not together nor were we before. I've waited such a long time for her to make up her mind but I'm not sure how much longer I could wait. I want to be with her so bad & she tells me I should move on but when I try to she starts getting jealous and sad when I try to do so. I don't know if it's something she is hiding from me that we can't be together because she tells me she wants to be with me sometimes but I'm not quite understanding why we're not. I respect her decisions. So, is it normal that I feel like I can't move on with my feelings even we haven't dated?

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago | pl

    You're right, she hasn't made up her mind. And she doesn't love you, if she did she would've made her mind up immediately. If anything, she only likes you, but only enough to bother restricting your freedom to 'move on.'
    Move on, ignore her and find someone amazing-- make sure this girl knows you're dead happy without her. :)

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  • quiley
    12 years ago | pl

    i understand completely where you are coming from, but to sit around waiting for an answer will only develop a sick amount of anger, jaded, hurt and a basket full of insecurities.

    if she wanted to be with you then she would be with you. when i think of people that don't give you a straight answer and end up giving you the waiting game, i tend to think that they want to see what else is out there before they date or they don't want to hurt your feelings and trying to be polite about it in the dumbest manner.

    she probably likes that comfort knowing that you like her, that she knows that you care about her and that when something happens you'll be there for her when she needs someone. but what does that leave you? you're giving her your attention, patience and time. in return she's giving you opposite of what you want.

    and you can move on, understand that. 2 years from now this problem will be something to laugh or shudder about, and also become a building block. something that you can identify and understand that this type of interaction leads to nothing that you want.

    i hope all goes well for you and it's kind of you waiting for her. but this is something that cannot be done. good luck champ.

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  • Jjinxa
    12 years ago | pl

    Sounds like shes leading you on. Move on and she will follow if she really cares for you. Take the ball and put it in court.

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago | pl

    Dude I know how you feel I'm in the same situation. The girl I love more than anything in the world can't make her mind about how she feels. She says she loves me and hopes that one day we can be together but it just can't happen right now. If you can accept that it won't happen right away, it'll be easier to move on. Let time decide what happens between you two, if you're meant to be together it'll happen. Just be there for her and maybe she'll realize how important you are to her. It's exactly what I did and she kissed me last night.

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