Is it normal to not be able to hold on to anger?

When we experience a surge of emotions, the limbic system in our brains is responsible for this, along with a slurry of neuro-chemicals.

This causes an imbalance, which the brain releases yet other neuro-chemicals to bring you back to normal.

People who have brains that do not do this efficiently enough develop bi-polar disorder, and swing back and forth between extremes of mania and depression.

It looks like you lucked out, and your brain gets back into balance extraordinarily quickly. You probably have good genetics.

Hooray for you!

I don't know if it's normal, but that's the way I am as well. I've always had to try hard to "work up a good mad", but as soon as I quit feeding it attention it goes away. Oh well. Move on and don't worry about trying to hold grudges just to be normal. Just remember what people have done to you with normal memory and treat them appropriately in the future without anger being the driving force. You're better off that way anyway.

mAYBE YOU'RE REPRESSING YOUR TRUE FEELINGS..

at least your not me... see my last post. its also my only post.

All good, I guess you should be glad it does die down...mine doesn't, and so I have a harder time with not beating everyone that angers me:p

This is normal - I find it hard to control my anger too. The simplest things set me off, and I just get so wound up and angry.

It's not really strange, and it's not necessarily repression either. Some people are just naturally able to control their emotions to a greater degree than other people. That's all. On the other side of the scale you get the kind of people that are slaves to their emotions and can't control themselves at all. I know which kind I'd prefer to be.

Yes, I think it's normal.

I do not think it's normal.

Do you keep your anger repressed? Or any of your other emotions for that matter?
I do think that life is too short to hold a grudge and be a hateful person, but I am curious, do you find yourself being walked over because you don't act on your anger? In a healthy, mature way of course.

life is too short to stay mad. i'm the same way and i enjoy it. you're less stressed and more fun to be around.

That's the way a man's emotions are SUPPOSED to work.

Either you've been reared in a house full of women, or you've been watching too much TV or something not to know this.

"Flare up and forget it" is exactly the pattern for every normal, well balanced man I've ever worked with. Think about the consequences if it weren't so:

Either you'd have to keep all your emotions bottled up forever until they kill you, or every careless minor error would invoke the death penalty.

That happens to me likke ill be pissed off about something for like a second or a minute and it would be something like bad and then im all like whatever so we can be normal together! lol

I'm thinking maybe you're aware (consciously or not) of how destructive anger can be, and just holding yourself back. Or maybe those other people just aren't worth the trouble...

i don't think it's normal, but i'm a little jealous. i have to make a conscious effort to empathize with the person not to get mad. and even then, i tend to write people off who are mean and insensitive.