As someone who has been through something somewhat similar, only with a horse, I do think it's best you find another home for the dog. Would your older brother be able to take the dog?
I think there is no shame in giving up an animal if you know it isn't right for you or you are unable to care for it. I know a lot of people think it's the worst thing ever, but as someone who has rescued animals who were starved and neglected due to their owners refusing to give them up when they really needed to, I think it's much better to give up the animal. Even if it isn't a matter of being unable to care for it and it's more about it not being a good fit, I don't think there's any shame in realizing that and finding the animal a better fit. As long as you're not the type to constantly get animals only to get rid of them and repeat the cycle, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
When I had my last horse, I had lost most (if not all) interest in riding quite awhile ago, it seemed like a chore, but I felt like I had a responsibility to at least keep this horse for the rest of his life. It was financially straining, I was constantly stressed about it all the time, and finally just had to say "enough". I was lucky enough to have family who wanted him, so it worked out, but it was a hard decision for me. To be honest, I think I waited way longer than I should have, to the point to where it was making me miserable and I had already spent so much money I could've saved instead.
As for your depression and anxiety, have you sought help for these things?
Thank you for giving sincere advice.
Unfortunately my older brother still lives with my parents...If/when I decide to rehome my dog I will do what I can to avoid leaving him at a shelter. I want the dog to actually have a good life and I can't give him that.
I have sought help in the past, but I have no intentions of getting on meds just to be able to deal with a dog. I want to focus my time and energy on getting myself in better shape mentally overall, and I am trying to work on that holistically.
Thank you for sharing your personal story as well.
I'm glad you care so much about ensuring your dog has a good life! I don't blame you for not wanting to get on meds just to make a situation work that isn't, as I've been on SSRIs in the past that really screwed with me and don't think they're worth it if they're not absolutely needed.
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As someone who has been through something somewhat similar, only with a horse, I do think it's best you find another home for the dog. Would your older brother be able to take the dog?
I think there is no shame in giving up an animal if you know it isn't right for you or you are unable to care for it. I know a lot of people think it's the worst thing ever, but as someone who has rescued animals who were starved and neglected due to their owners refusing to give them up when they really needed to, I think it's much better to give up the animal. Even if it isn't a matter of being unable to care for it and it's more about it not being a good fit, I don't think there's any shame in realizing that and finding the animal a better fit. As long as you're not the type to constantly get animals only to get rid of them and repeat the cycle, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
When I had my last horse, I had lost most (if not all) interest in riding quite awhile ago, it seemed like a chore, but I felt like I had a responsibility to at least keep this horse for the rest of his life. It was financially straining, I was constantly stressed about it all the time, and finally just had to say "enough". I was lucky enough to have family who wanted him, so it worked out, but it was a hard decision for me. To be honest, I think I waited way longer than I should have, to the point to where it was making me miserable and I had already spent so much money I could've saved instead.
As for your depression and anxiety, have you sought help for these things?
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Thank you for giving sincere advice.
Unfortunately my older brother still lives with my parents...If/when I decide to rehome my dog I will do what I can to avoid leaving him at a shelter. I want the dog to actually have a good life and I can't give him that.
I have sought help in the past, but I have no intentions of getting on meds just to be able to deal with a dog. I want to focus my time and energy on getting myself in better shape mentally overall, and I am trying to work on that holistically.
Thank you for sharing your personal story as well.
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I'm glad you care so much about ensuring your dog has a good life! I don't blame you for not wanting to get on meds just to make a situation work that isn't, as I've been on SSRIs in the past that really screwed with me and don't think they're worth it if they're not absolutely needed.
No problem, I am glad I could help!