Is it normal to never experience love?

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Ever since I can remember, I have had no emotional connection to my family. I stopped telling my parents I loved them at age 6 and never said it again. My dad was never physically abusive, but very verbally abusive. He would insult me, call me names and give out irrational punishments on a daily basis. However, I feel nothing towards my mother or sister either and they both have been civil. I don't think I've ever had a real conversation with my sister. It feels like strangers just happening to live in the same house. I hate holidays and family dinners because of the awkwardness. We attended family therapy for a while but nothing has changed.

I thought I've loved boyfriends but later realized I was wrong. I dated a boy on and off for almost 4 years and we told each other we loved one another. However I hated spending time with him. I would break it off but then as soon as I felt him moving on, I'd attempt to get back together. I realized it was all about the game and the chase. I needed the drama but I did not care about him as a person so I let him go. The same thing happened with my next boyfriend of one year.

I don't know why I cannot love another person. I am happy and I have great friends. I just don't know what I can do to fix this problem, or if there even is a cure.

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  • 1brianna1
    12 years ago

    For the family thing, there's nothing wrong with not loving your family. I mean, it's emotionally draining, but I can relate. I tell people I do not love my family, and usually people gasp and think it's a terrible thing. I met one friend recently who feels the same way as me. I usually only ever contact my parents if I have a financial concern or something technical like that. I do not love my sister, nor do I like her, and I try to avoid her at all costs. Sometimes, family is just a bunch of people with closely linked genes. As for relationships, if you are upset but the lack of love you have for a person, then don't date people. Some people are perfectly happy alone. It's also possible that you just haven't met the right person yet.

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  • thatdumbkid
    12 years ago

    I feel that same exact way... I thought I was the only one...

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  • WildUtopia
    12 years ago

    I am okay with you not feeling love for people you are emotionally disconnected with family however I want to refute your claims about not loving anyone or anyTHING because as a romantic I have to be passionately involved with something or nothing at all. I have hope that maybe...instead of feeling like you have no love for others, you will realize love for yourself that you want to share with others, even if you don't like them. If you have surplus happiness to share, share it! Not in boastful ways though, unless you want to...like to your dad :p don't try to please your dad too much...if it hurts you try to find happiness inside you know? when you do find the love for yourself don't worry you aren't a narcissist, you're a beautiful flower ;-D

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