Is it normal to miss your ex when having sex with your husband?!

Your husband might just suck at sex

It's normal cuz he's ur first.. But try to get over ur thoughts

For fucks sake...Their are so many egotistical idiots on this site...

Its completely normal to miss a certain aspect of a past relationship. It is a bit weird to think about it during sex, but if its something that your former partner did that you really like, and your current partner doesn't, its not really the ex that your missing, its the act.

Don't listen to these people. I can guarantee you that if they took the time to think about it, they would all miss something about an ex partner.

As I said before, your not missing your sex, but the action. Let your husband try, you never know he might surprise you.

Totally normal doesn't always mean u want your ex back or don't love your husband. Just means you had a "different" sexual experience with your ex that you enjoyed and would like to experience with your husband...I was in this situation where an ex and I had crazy sexual chemistry but would fight just as passionatly and it was just a bad relationship. Now with my current bf who I love and adore i wish we had that chemistry, not thats its bad, its just different. It's a sucky feeling though because of the guilt factor. Just get experimental with your husband to spice and shake it up. This is why you're not supposed to have sex before marriage so that you don't compare..lol

I enjoy my current GF but I know what it is like to miss things about other people you have been with in the past. Sometimes its just something as simple the way they kissed you or the smell of their hair. I found it is helpful to try and develop new things you have never done with the person you are with now. It helps to take your mind away from the thoughts of the other person. You shared something special with your previous man so you should not have to FORGET about him nor will you be able to. None of this makes you a bad person. Eva you are a box..stop making people feel bad. Obviously relationships as a whole are a weakness for you or you are just a bitch. Probably a little of both : ) Have a nice day.

err sort it out the one person you should be thinking about is the person your shagging and @rawr! sort it out you dont go round saying yourr a lez because ur just gunna get slagged offf :S

your all fucking weridos :@

The more you try not to think about it the more it will probably pop into your head. I think it is normal. Just relax and enjoy sex with your current husband. Your mind will do what it wants to do.
-Eva.... You are not very nice. People are asking for advice and you give your opinion in a very harsh unhelpful way. She is obviously concerned about this don't make her feel worse.

Gross. That's not fair to ur spouce to think of your ex especially during sex. Shame on you.

I am having the same problem with my new boy friend. My ex and I shared a great sexual bond, I was with him for 3 years and was engaged to be married. I was so sure for once in my life that I want to be with him till death do us apart and all. But fate had other plans for me so we broke up. I realized later that i was blinded by my hopes and dreams not to see what and who he really was. My present boy friend is a sweetheart and we have been together for 8 months now and i started to realize he is a better man than my ex. Now like runner girl I also think about my ex during sex or even sometimes almost call his name..lol , but the good thing is I am guilt free person. My current bf is well endowed and we is wild in bed. It took me a little time before i knew the real trouble, when we (most women i guess)surrender to someone so completely sexually it hits us hard a change of a charge and the loyalties to be switched. I focused on the best aspects of my bf and also told him how I am still thinking of him off and on without wanting him at all. He understood or just pretended to which made me respect him even more and sexually accept him. Now we try loads of different things in sex which he is great at and i think of my ex who was not great at some of experimentation or selfish and i feel blessed. so my advice don't feel guilty find the sexy thing about your husband and explore, you can even ask him to try the same thing as your ex...I did and he turned out to be better at it then my ex. I find myself thinking of my ex less during sex or otherwise now.

You need to sleep with more men, young lady, that way you'll have more men to think about than just your ex. Problem solved

dont fight it. you may just keep this to yourself but dont over indulge in it.
perhaps you need more time to get over your ex and it can be hard if you two were very intimate inthe past

and Eva is not being a bitch, all she is doing is telling the truth. But I really do you get over your ex runnergirl, and I'm sure it will take time.

whoa, like I can tell you this: every guy who's read this is hoping really hard and keeping their fingers crossed really tight that their wife (future wife in my case) won't end up like you. Get over your ex and stop feeling sorry for yourself. I know you aren't doing it on purpose but just force yourself.

get your husband to do some of the things you miss. i don't see anything wrong with that. afterall, you wanna enjoy it.

not normal lol i wud be mad if i was ur hubby keep it to urself :P problem sloved

it is normal to fantasize about other people at times when you are with someone. one way to help fix this is to try spiceing up your sex life with games and other fantasies to keep other people out of your mind.

Eva is a bitch..

Please don't say hubby. My mom says that and now I think your her. ....lol

I think about my best friend when I have sex with my gf (I'm lez).. I should say ex bestfriend :(

Thanks Dannie! I'm trying to relax, I just feel so bad. I wouldn't want him to be thinking about someone else.

Wow, if only ur hubby knew that

That's a load of bs. It is not normal to think of an ex when you are with a current partner that you love.

Well then it sounds like either he is really bad at sex, and/or you aren't over your ex.

Uh, lemme add in: I'm NOT doing it on purpose!!!!

Please don't put me down! I'm doing it on purpose! As soon as it happens, I try to not think about it. But you know what happens when you TRY to not think about something...!