Is it normal to miss someone before they are gone?

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I often look at the people I love and think, "it's going to hurt like hell when you leave me. I miss you already."
I've had these thoughts often when looking at my boyfriend and my mother. I miss them even though they are right there. I already know i am going to miss them. I look at them and feel overwhelming love for them, then I realise one day they won't be in my life and my heart hurts physically in my chest. It makes me want to hold them close and never let go so they can never go away.
Do I have abandonment issues?

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Based on 16 votes (14 yes)
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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    Sometimes I predict that I will fart. I will think to my self sometimes "gee I think ill fart later" sometimes it happens minutes after. Sometimes hours. But it always happens.

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    • timallen
      3 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your brave story. Peace be with you and your farts.

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  • freelarking
    3 years ago

    Look up Bowlby and attachment theory. You are worth more than your fear of abandonment. You will learn to feel more secure in what you have to offer.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    Yes I feel that way sometimes. I get very attached to the people I care about.

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  • Cliche1234
    3 years ago

    I used to feel that way too. It's an obvious result from getting too attached with people.

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  • thepuppet
    3 years ago

    Thought I wrote this.

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  • soleyman_the_magnificent
    3 years ago

    I actually probably grieved more when my dad was terminally ill but still alive than in the immediate aftermath of his death. Also, the fact that he was an older father made me think about his passing a long time before he died. Like 20 years before he died. I’m just grateful that I was nearly 40 before he passed. I feel badly for people that lost parents at a young age.

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  • McSorley
    3 years ago

    It's what I say, man...if you still have your parents hug them often. When they go, especially suddenly, you'll find yourself in your own personal apocalypse.

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  • dirtybirdy
    3 years ago

    How about missing them before you even know them? Hence the song by Bjork...I miss you

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    Sure.

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