Wake up, you crazy kids! Some of you seem to be confusing forced and arranged marriages. Let me explain....
There are actually very few circumstances where a person will be forced to marry - in fact the underlying laws of most religions and customs insist that the couple enter into a marriage willingly - after all, how can there be any hope of adhering to the vows that create the unique bond of man and woman in marriage?
Now, up until the age of, say, 25 most men are ruled by their penis and the women by their uterus and the nagging ticking of the biological clock - this can in many cases lead to some very rash decisions in love....we've all been there, right? The psycho bitch, the player, the "I'll call you, I promise"...these are all the traits of the immature.
Your parents, and the parents of everybody else in the world, have at least 16 years or so experience and maturity over their children and can tell whether a person is suited to you or not. I've seen my own mother look in despair at some of the....er, shall we say "conquests" ...I have proudly paraded on my arm and she has been there when it all went predictably and horribly wrong!
Imagine, then, the scenario where the parents are trusted enough to be able to guide your hand through the relationship nightmare straight to someone who they have thoroughly researched and approved of? Ok so you may never experience the joys of sitting in the bathroom hoping the lines don't turn blue or waking up to find your wallet and car missing, but would you really miss them in exchange for a good partner that you could trust from the outset? A partner that has been proposed and monitored closely by both parents?
Arranged marriages are not forced. In many instances there are a number of potential suitors. Turning down the marriage is seen as a slur on the family involved - why wouldn't it be? You are disregarding the wisdom of a number of elder members of your caring network!
Some marriages are, I admit, undertaken with dubious intent - then again I was allowed to choose my wife freely, to make my own mistakes and to trust my own judgement. I now only see my son once a week and my home is up for sale as she is intending to take 60% of the equity to support our child and the new man she has in her life...I wish to God that I had just taken the advice of my parents all those years ago...
Is it normal to marry sm1 u haven't met??
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Wake up, you crazy kids! Some of you seem to be confusing forced and arranged marriages. Let me explain....
There are actually very few circumstances where a person will be forced to marry - in fact the underlying laws of most religions and customs insist that the couple enter into a marriage willingly - after all, how can there be any hope of adhering to the vows that create the unique bond of man and woman in marriage?
Now, up until the age of, say, 25 most men are ruled by their penis and the women by their uterus and the nagging ticking of the biological clock - this can in many cases lead to some very rash decisions in love....we've all been there, right? The psycho bitch, the player, the "I'll call you, I promise"...these are all the traits of the immature.
Your parents, and the parents of everybody else in the world, have at least 16 years or so experience and maturity over their children and can tell whether a person is suited to you or not. I've seen my own mother look in despair at some of the....er, shall we say "conquests" ...I have proudly paraded on my arm and she has been there when it all went predictably and horribly wrong!
Imagine, then, the scenario where the parents are trusted enough to be able to guide your hand through the relationship nightmare straight to someone who they have thoroughly researched and approved of? Ok so you may never experience the joys of sitting in the bathroom hoping the lines don't turn blue or waking up to find your wallet and car missing, but would you really miss them in exchange for a good partner that you could trust from the outset? A partner that has been proposed and monitored closely by both parents?
Arranged marriages are not forced. In many instances there are a number of potential suitors. Turning down the marriage is seen as a slur on the family involved - why wouldn't it be? You are disregarding the wisdom of a number of elder members of your caring network!
Some marriages are, I admit, undertaken with dubious intent - then again I was allowed to choose my wife freely, to make my own mistakes and to trust my own judgement. I now only see my son once a week and my home is up for sale as she is intending to take 60% of the equity to support our child and the new man she has in her life...I wish to God that I had just taken the advice of my parents all those years ago...