Is it normal to make people believe i am rich?

Hello there, I'm a middle class young adult (22 y/o) at university. I was admitted to this posh university for spoilt rich kids. I guess they knew I was not as whealthy as them right from the start, so they ignored me.

Then I moved to another university and changed my appearance, bought some nice clothes and I started pretending that I'm rich as that university is also posh. I have many friends and they're really close to me, but they don't know that I'm not as rich as them. I know lying is bad, but that was the only way I could make friends, I didn't want to be the outsider again. Besides, in love, war and in friendship all means are permitted.

It feels so good living my dream, I feel like a royalty with these people. They think my parents live abroad but that's not true, I live together with them in the suburbs.

It's just that I want to live a good life, I want to marry one of the people here and move to the whealthy part of the city.

Yes, I am pretty ambitious and I want to live a good and whealthy life. I don't want to use the disgusting public transport anymore.

The saddest part is my realization that people nowadays treat you better if they think you're rich! They don't care about your personality. I was nobody when I dressed in an uncool way and people thought I was poor/lower middle class person. I felt invisible then, but now I am somebody and people notice me.

It's funny how wearing smarter clothes and caring more about your outer appearance can improve you previously pathetic life.

Is It Normal?
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  • The web of deceit can become quite sticky. You should always be true to yourself. The grass is always greener...however look at all the chemicals they have to dump on it to make it that shade of green.

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  • It's normal for people to want to put on at least somewhat of an air of having more success or money than they actually have, doing it to such an extent that it consumes you is a very bad thing. I've known a few people who outwardly seemed to have it all but in reality they had maxxed out credit cards and couldn't afford anything they had. It's sad and pathetic.

    My grandparents did this so much that they ended up losing everything they had and had to move in with my aunt. Even after they had to move in with her, they still managed to have 2 brand new vehicles, which astonished me that their priorities were so messed up still even after losing everything.

    You said you want to get married-so what happens if you meet a nice girl and you've told her all kinds of lies about your background and financial means?? What happens when she comes to meet your family and you are exposed? No matter how understanding she is, to find out you have lied so much would likely end the relationship. You can't live a lie forever.

    I'd say just be yourself and be happy with who you are and where you came from. I think it's admirable that you came from a poor background and accomplished as much as you have.

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  • Money can only get you so far. Even the richest man can be fooled so instead of pretending to be rich how about learn to be smarter than them etc?

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  • Like a soap opera

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  • Keep doing that, it's perfectly normal.
    See how people is, if u wasn't faking they would kick your ass.
    Make them fools!!!

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  • I go to a similar university and I started dressing well and wearing expensive clothes (that I find cheap), but everybody knows I'm pretty poor.

    Dress the way you like, but don't lie to people you want to be close to. You'll never be able to talk about your family or the things you care about it, you'll never be able to trust anybody if you start making up a lie about where you come from.

    You think you'd be able to last through it but you won't. I know compulsive liars. They can't connect to anybody, they're very conspicuously insecure, and fucking nobody and I mean NOBODY respects them.

    Don't wait for somebody to encourage you or wheedle you out of this. Don't fucking do it. Seriously dude. Don't.

    You think people only respected you after you got "rich", but I'd bet any odds that it's only because you feel more confident now than you did before. Carry yourself the way you think you'll be respected, but remember where you come from.

    Remember a lot of these kids' parents made their own fortunes. Came from the ground up. The richest people I know are more humble than you can imagine. Like Central Park rich. Don't sweat it. You'll find that people have more to offer than you think.

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  • Sad, innit?
    I say, carry on what you're doing and if you keep any of these friends when you graduate, let em know the truth. Don't waste too much money funding a sham though.
    I hope you didn't leave your first university based solely on friends... I'm in second year and don't talk with anyone on a frequent basis (no friends, good class buds..) and I like it. I can't imagine leaving just cause I don't know people there.

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  • Money isn't always the case...and lying isn't good....I don't wonna judge you....but seriously...if you wonna be popular and rich....be honest and always nice to people....they will see it....and they will admire you for that

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  • Marrying a rich person to move to thw wealthy part of the city....... This is no ambition, this is just damn lame and shallow. Don't you think that dressing better boosted your self confidence?

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  • Have you by any chance seen the movie Arthur???
    Not that it helps.. But still :)

    In terms of your life however, just be very careful. Things will get worse before they get better. One day these people will find out your true place in the social ladder. However, use this opportunity to build tight bonds with the people you enjoy being around. They will be all that's left later on. Besides, how do you expect to marry a rich person without being honest to them?

    Good luck!
    (and watch Arthur :D)

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  • I am smarter than them! I've been lying to them for many years!

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  • I am smarter than them! I've been lieing them for mane years!

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