Well, my opinion differs from yours here. For me, feelings have to be unconditional. I don't wanna discuss "hoping4best"'s case without knowing this user, so here is the hypothetical situation:
Lets say, person A(Alex) loves person B(Bailey). Why would that depend on the feelings of B for A? The love is either there, or it's not.
What if Alex knows, that Bailey would be happier with someone else but him? Would A still try to force himself on B?
Btw, I respect your point of view, I'm just trying to understand it
o yes you can love someone who doesn't love you back
but will that be a *fulfilling* relationship?...
you may want to tell someone "o yes you'll be fulfilled by that" to make them feel better but... that may not be the truth.
from my own experience.... i had strong feelings for someone who liked me but ... not like that. it never went past friendship, and he never made a point of keeping in contact with me.
was it fulfilling? ... meh. i had good daydreams sure.
but when I met my BF... that's when everything clicked.
and pining for someone i cannot have... is not as good as having a relationship with someone who loves me back the way my BF does. ;)
Is it normal to make out in imagination?
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Why?
Maybe she doesn't need to be WITH him, maybe it's just enough for her to know, that she loves him - regardless whether he loves her back.
Happened to some of us before ánd will probably happen again.
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because i've been there and in the long run.... i threw away years pining after someone who didn't feel the same.
believe me ... loving someone who actually loves you back is MUCH more fulfilling than living in a pretend daydream
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Well, my opinion differs from yours here. For me, feelings have to be unconditional. I don't wanna discuss "hoping4best"'s case without knowing this user, so here is the hypothetical situation:
Lets say, person A(Alex) loves person B(Bailey). Why would that depend on the feelings of B for A? The love is either there, or it's not.
What if Alex knows, that Bailey would be happier with someone else but him? Would A still try to force himself on B?
Btw, I respect your point of view, I'm just trying to understand it
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o yes you can love someone who doesn't love you back
but will that be a *fulfilling* relationship?...
you may want to tell someone "o yes you'll be fulfilled by that" to make them feel better but... that may not be the truth.
from my own experience.... i had strong feelings for someone who liked me but ... not like that. it never went past friendship, and he never made a point of keeping in contact with me.
was it fulfilling? ... meh. i had good daydreams sure.
but when I met my BF... that's when everything clicked.
and pining for someone i cannot have... is not as good as having a relationship with someone who loves me back the way my BF does. ;)