IIN to love your adult children even though they hate you?

In this type of stories I will ALWAYS side with the children. Kids are not stupid, they know when a parent has been absent, if they resent you so much there must be a reason. I'm trying to be objective here, but my father himself did many bad things to our family, yet, he keeps saying exactly what you are in this post, that he loves us all and doesn't understand why we ignore him.

I assume that the mom probably indoctrinated them into hating you to a certain extent, but let me tell you, that does not work when a parent is present. From another comment you wrote I now know that you moved away when they were going through puberty!! Probably the moment a child needs their father the most.

I don't know what you can do. Maybe give them some money from college as an excuse to reconnect or something. But mostly, try to accept in yourself the mistakes you have made (I'm sure there must be some) and also accept the consequences as an adult man!