Me and their mother divorced and we got shared physical custody [they lived with BOTH of us for at least 9 years]. The youngest was 3 when we divorced and was 12 when I moved out of state. I raised and shared life with them for all their childhood until they reached teenage years[oldest was 14 and youngest was 12] when I left the state. They both lived with me and their stepmother for half the year for 9 years before we left the state.
Your original post said you remarried, moved interstate and begged the boys to visit you, implying this didn't happen.
Now you're saying something completely different, that there was contact until they were 12 and 14: not good ages for their father to move far away and it appears ask them to leave their mother to live with you and their stepmother.
It didn't all happen over night. There was time between divorce, remarried, move out of state.
YOU ASSUMED...or is this the "All Men Lie" thing.?
Didn't think I needed to put exact dates and times in order for people to follow along.
On April 15th 2003 at 9:15am the divorce between me and my sons mother was finalized. At that time me and their mother obtained joint shared physical custody. On April 16th 10am both children came to live with me for a six month duration. Exactly 3 years 2 days later I married their step mother on April 17th 2006.....do I really need to say all of this????
Yeah I did assume, based on your incomplete information and you didn't need to go to the other extreme with precise dates and times!
Now that I have more information, have you actually listened to how your sons feel about you leaving them when you moved interstate? Did you ask them at the time how they felt about it and explain your reasons for doing so?
Not only did I listen I asked multiple times, gave them time to think and listened again.
I not only explained, once, twice, ten times but probably over 50 times.
I explained over 1 year before I left, many times up until and after the time I left. I asked them how they felt many times before, during and after as well.
Assume you are conversing with a half way intelligent male so that you won't assume the worse.
IIN to love your adult children even though they hate you?
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Me and their mother divorced and we got shared physical custody [they lived with BOTH of us for at least 9 years]. The youngest was 3 when we divorced and was 12 when I moved out of state. I raised and shared life with them for all their childhood until they reached teenage years[oldest was 14 and youngest was 12] when I left the state. They both lived with me and their stepmother for half the year for 9 years before we left the state.
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That contradicts your original post.
I suggest you ask them what's going on and then listen.
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What contradicts?
Show a contradiction PLEASE
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Your original post said you remarried, moved interstate and begged the boys to visit you, implying this didn't happen.
Now you're saying something completely different, that there was contact until they were 12 and 14: not good ages for their father to move far away and it appears ask them to leave their mother to live with you and their stepmother.
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It didn't all happen over night. There was time between divorce, remarried, move out of state.
YOU ASSUMED...or is this the "All Men Lie" thing.?
Didn't think I needed to put exact dates and times in order for people to follow along.
On April 15th 2003 at 9:15am the divorce between me and my sons mother was finalized. At that time me and their mother obtained joint shared physical custody. On April 16th 10am both children came to live with me for a six month duration. Exactly 3 years 2 days later I married their step mother on April 17th 2006.....do I really need to say all of this????
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Yeah I did assume, based on your incomplete information and you didn't need to go to the other extreme with precise dates and times!
Now that I have more information, have you actually listened to how your sons feel about you leaving them when you moved interstate? Did you ask them at the time how they felt about it and explain your reasons for doing so?
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Yes of course I did.
Not only did I listen I asked multiple times, gave them time to think and listened again.
I not only explained, once, twice, ten times but probably over 50 times.
I explained over 1 year before I left, many times up until and after the time I left. I asked them how they felt many times before, during and after as well.
Assume you are conversing with a half way intelligent male so that you won't assume the worse.