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My girl friend and I love to engage in spanking foreplay. Sometimes I spank her bare and she wants me to continue even to the point of overall redness. This disturbs me because I love her and really don't want to cause any lasting hurt. Is it normal for her to want a really sound spanking?
LOL, I wish we lived near each other. But to answer the question, it is good of you to consider her request and to work with her regarding her desire. I fully respect and understand your situation. Being a disciplinarian of misbehaving adult females, I often times am requested to spank a wife, g/f, fiancee, or just part of a relationship between m/f because the male is unable, emotionally, to spank the female in the manner that is needed. If you (both) are familiar with the use of a safe word, that will help immensely, also. Good luck.
Spanking is a learning experience.
Right now you are not meeting her needs and she wants more.
It sounds like you are afraid of "hurting" her.
Well spanking hurts. It is the nature of spanking.
But, for a woman that loves to be spanked, it is a very nice hurt. A well spanked bottom is not only a huge turn on for her, but the lasting soreness is a huge turn on for how much she loves her dominant man.
I am not saying go get a wood paddle and go hog wild. But, if all you are using is your hand right now, than go on much longer than you usually do and gradually increase the strength.
You need to communicate. She will let you know when it is enough, and just in case come up with what is called safe words.. most common is traffic light.
Green, I am fine, love it, keep going
yellow, slow down a bit, not necessarily stop, just slow down
red STOP!!
and always always mind these safe words.
She is putting a lot of trust in you to give her the spanking she needs and wants.
Believe me you will be well rewarded after with a very hot aroused girl ready to do just about anything for you.