Is it normal to love someone this much...

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We dated for about three years and it's been two years since we broke up. I haven't stopped thinking about him and I don't think I've stopped loving him either. Even still this day I call him and text him even though I know he wont answer or text back. And if he does it's just to tell me to move on already. It's not like I haven't tried it's been two years after all. I've tried god knows how much I just want to forget about him and yet I can't. He even has a new gf now and they've been together for a year. But we've made love to each other more than three times despite the gf and us not being together. I told myself so many times he doesn't love me anymore and I should stop calling him and meeting up with him when I'm intoxicated from alcohol but... I still do from time to time. I still cry after all this time and I wonder sometimes if I'll actually ever move on or is he gonna be the only man I'll ever love. Truely. And yes he was my first love as well. We were each others first for everything and was hoping the last as well.

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  • Cbg
    13 years ago

    Everything happens for a reason. I went through the samething and events. Key word is patience. I never thought happiness would ever become possible again. I finally moved on. Go date and experience around and if it's ment to be then something will bring u all back together. If not then it wasn't ment to be. Plus must guys when girls act like they don't care that's when they realize what they lost and then they come running back. Good luck to you sweetie.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Nothing wrong with loving someone so much. I think it is wonderful of you.

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  • Wuggums47
    10 years ago

    I'd say that you need to get over him, but that would be like telling a guy with Crohns disease to buck up and stop experiencing extreme intestinal distress. I think there isn't much you can do except go to a therapist. After two years, this is not going to blow over on itself, and seeing a therapist and maybe later a psychiatrist depending on how bad it is could help you to move on with your life. I know to a lot of people who've never been before, they feel like therapy is just for "Crazy people", but that's just because they don't know how much it could help the average troubled person.

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  • lala85
    10 years ago

    From personal experience, I think when you do finally move on (which you eventually will) You will be mad at yourself for acting like this. Trust me, you will regret putting yourself down and going after a guy who obviously doesn't love you back. Be a big girl and make a decision to never contact him again and STICK TO IT. That will help you move on a lot faster!

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  • mahal
    13 years ago

    It's weird cause I have tried dating. It's all right in the beginning but then theres a moment when they want to share a kiss or even just hold hands and yet I cant bring myself to share that moment with them. It sucks. I didn't lose faith in love nor am I scared to fall in love again I just cant bring myself to love another the way I loved him. I don't know if I feel like their not good enough or their just no competition to the my first love or am I truly just gonna be in love with him and only him.

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  • charity
    13 years ago

    U are never going to heal as long as you try to hang on to someone who obviously doesnt want you... Bite the bullet, then move on

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