Is it normal to love it when my wife fantasizes about other men?

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I enjoy being jelous over my wife! We used to play around with role play during sex, and my wife said that the men she pictured tended to be men she actually had known or knows. This made me upset at first, and I didn't like it. But after some time I grew to enjoy roleplay about my wife being unfaithful, and the explicit details of her fantasies and the ideas behind them. My wife has fantasized like this upon my request, and then has been upset by how much I enjoyed it. Then to make matters worse, we keep coming back to the issue because of my enormous desire to feel jelous over my beautiful wife fantasizing about another. Now that she understands that I don't like the idea of her being a woman of loose moral character, but enjoy the feelings of jelousy when she is thinking of another she is more open to the idea. But out of all the super turn ons in my life, the idea of my love being psychologically free to fantasize about anyone she pleases besides me is the ultimate for me (I actually perfer it). I recognize that my wife never wants this to happen in reality, but she says she can enjoy it ocassionally as an intense fantasy. THe thing is, I want to know why I can't ditch this desire. My wife is a good and faithful woman, and she doesn't need this, but I keep needing it. I DO LOVE MY WIFE! The curve ball is that even though she perfers to be faithful in body and MIND, she responds more passionatly to the fantasy. This is SO Confusing and difficult.

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  • Masterfreak3
    5 years ago | pl

    I and my girlfriend are going through the same thing. It all started with my fantasy of seeing other guys do her and getting off. She has a thing that if it makes her upset or uncomfortable she will play with it and make it into something so she can deal with it. It always ends up taking a life of its own and becoming a kind of fetish. The more you play with it, and the regularity in which you do, will make it that more potent. She and I now do 3 guys doing her and have all kinds of different slants on it, and the jelousy aspect is what gets her started. You do need to be able to discipline yourself and dull the urge a bit, if I understand your wife's personality. Most women will not obsess like we will. Since you have a calmer woman who is obliging just to please, you need to take it at her pace and to do that you will have to make it less noticable to her. She wants to feel special, so moderate. You can still fantasize some on your own without having to involve her.

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  • Cassif
    10 years ago | pl

    We do it once with stranged guys. So se can not in love for him. It is pure for sex and coming.

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