Is it normal to love/hate your mother at the same time?

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I am a child of incest..I feel my mother hates me, when she talks to me, she always has this frown on her face. I feel she loves my sister and brother more, because they are by actual men she liked. but I am by her father. It seems no one sees this but me. she will give me money if I ask..but no affection..I hate her so much and I know it is wrong to hate..but when my sister and brother are around and they talk about funny things she are other family members do, I love her. but I hate her still..inside...

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  • Vyzr
    13 years ago

    Thats cruddy! How come people who do nothing wrong get bad lives!?

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    • imacomputer
      12 years ago

      one of the MANY reasons why I don't believe in God!

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Make love to her - show her your a man

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  • kingofthedust
    13 years ago

    Be a soldier. Hate is for wimps who can't deal with the pressure. Just live your life like you want to and say fuck dem hoes I'm a man (or woman w/e).

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  • TripMonster
    13 years ago

    I think there is nothing to do about this situation. Unfortunately you were brought into this and you have nothing to do with what happened between your mother and her father, you're completely victimized by this situation, and your mother seems to hold a grudge about it, and unfortunately she's letting her negativity out on you.

    I think you and your mother should go see a therapist or counselor of some kind and talk about the situation and help your mother get over the traumatic situation that happened, and if she can accept it and just go back to normality then things should get better for you.

    But right now nothing is your fault, you were the one that just happened to be the out come of the act.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    You know, I really have no idea what to advise here because I actually went to infant and junior school with someone who was the product of father/daughter incest. Their house was much how you describe your own (maybe worse as the extended family continued to live together).

    However, people lie. I'm not suggesting you are a liar; I'm just for the first time realising that maybe my friend from school wasn't actually the product of incest (he didn't tell me this himself and we never discussed it, but everyone said it about him). Given that he was from a country other than our own and his "father" was mysteriously absent, it's occurring to me that people made it up.

    On those grounds, I'm going to say nothing because I don't want to give you bad advice. What I will say, though, is that if I was your mother, I would be in a difficult position. Same as if I were you. There are no easy answers here but you do need to communicate with the people involved, rather than us.

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