Is it normal to love and hate my dog?

I have a beautiful black Boxer that is a loving good boy. But I hate him so much. He is the 4th Boxer we’ve had, and he is the most dog dog we’ve ever had. He looks at you with those big brown eyes and your heart melts. But I hate him with a passion.
He’s not our first dog and definitely won’t be our last. But he is the most annoying thing on the planet and I wish I never brought him home. Our last Boxer died of cancer and my husbands heart was broken. Because I love him and want him to be happy I went on a search for another Boxer. I found him and surprised my husband.
Irritatingly, for months, my husband only had eyes for this dog. I’m pretty sure I started hating the dog around that time. To my husband the dog can do no wrong. He’s always a “good boy” 🙄
The dog is dumb as a tack. Stubborn as a mule and as graceful and gentle as a bull. He drools more than any dog we’ve ever had. So, the house is always disgusting. He sheds all over. Whines when he’s not near you or has to stay out side. He bullies our other dog. I can’t have anything nice because he ruins everything. The house we have been re doing is always gross. I can’t be following him around every minute to clean up after him. This dog is an attention whore. He drives me crazy. He has a chaotic energy which is very hard to handle because I love my home to be a peaceful place. If I want any peace I have to keep him in the backyard with the curtains drawn so he can’t see in AT ALL or he whines incessantly. He is always underfoot and when you try to walk he stands right in front of you because he’s too stupid to move. We’ve paid thousands for leather couches that he’s scratched up because he decided to go nuts in the house and run all over them.
I feel guilty for hating him so much; For enjoying a peaceful and clean home.
It’s a love hate relationship. Also, I think I hate how much my husband loves this dog.
And I know I will have to wait for this dog to die.
Because I love my husband I am willing to tolerate this thorn in my side.
But he is so stressful to have around.
Just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

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Comments ( 3 )
  • nikkiclaire

    Seek help from professionals.

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  • (s)aint

    This sounds like a dog that isn´t getting what it needs. If your husband loves him and wants to keep him, taking care of that part is his job.
    Many people get dogs and expects them to be lazy furnitures that´s pleased with chilling in your Backyard.
    Go for walks! Your dog should PANT AND SLEEP after, then you know you are doing your job.

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  • I would never suggest to subtly poison the dogs food and blame its death on natural causes then take it’s body and bury it before anyone can notice.

    I actually wouldn’t, get a trainer and have your husband spend more time with it.

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