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My partner checks out other girls while we are together. I've pointed this out but he says he not looking at girls in general just at people which often happen to be girls. I believe him but it really bothers me that he looks at girls.
I've started looking at men just to show him how it feels!
you can stop a guy from taking action but you cant stop a guy from looking
You looking too won't effect him and it definately won't make u feel better. My ex tried telling me he didn't look either and he was lying because he would snap his head around to check girls out. If you see him do it all the time he is lying.
Men like looking at women and that won't change. If he's straight then all you're going to ever get is a guy who looks at other women or a guy that's really good at controlling his urges.
Unfortunately it's normal. I guess 'partner' means something other than spouse? Is your partner a woman? If so, I'd say that was normal, the way GOD intended it.
I think I do believe it in a way!
It's not just pretty girls he looks at but some that I would say are ugly or not his type.
He will say things like she shouldn't wear jeans like that with the size of her legs but he doesn't comment on pretty girls.
I don't think I believe it's a reflex thing though, I think he's done it for so long that now it's habit.
Adreniline, that's a cop out. It's not a reflex and no women in her right mind will believe that crock of shit.
Well, as a male, I can say it's a mere reflex. Mostly we don't even notice we're checking out a girl, and that's properly why he says he's just looking at people in general. And you can stare all you won't at other men; I doubt it'll bother him.
I say look at the guys and let him look at the girls. Youll both get turned on and then you can take it out on each other. Yea i know "Nitti thats not a good idea" idk i would think that would be cool.
Thank you all for your replies. True it doesn't make me feel better playing him at his own game!
Yeah we are programed to look at other women but there's a difference. Looking at them for a second because your just looking and then there's stare and check them out. If your in a relationship just looking is ok, nothing wrong with that but if your checking them out it's a lack of respect to your partner and your probably not satisfied with her so your checking out other women.
It is normal to look at people you find attractive, but of course it can be disrespectful to the one you're with. Have you tried appreciating other women WITH him? For example, asking him, "Which of those women do you think is the prettiest?" or "Wow- she's beautiful, don"t you think?" Women typically notice other women a lot more than men notice other men, so it should be pretty easy to have this sort of conversation. My girlfriend does this all the time, appreciating other women out loud (sure- she is critical too), and it is so refreshing- just one of the things that I love about her that shows me her self-confidence.
He needs to show you more respect. You are the girl he is with and one he should be engaged with rather than rubber necking. Women are pretty but its rude to stare at their body parts. Be discreet.
I hate to say it but us men are programed to look just like dogs, so there is not much point in getting upset. It's not like he will cheat