Ooh this is totally right up my alley. So I was never in a relationship, and never wanted one really. Then I met a guy, we became friends. We started talking about sex, and we were both virgins. I didn't want to, he did, but didn't pressure me. Then I wanted a relationship, I didn't. For whatever reason though, I still wanted to sleep with him (NOT because I thought it would make him want a relationship, I know better than that!) So we talked about it for forever. And I think that it was good because we were friends, not romantically involved, so I worried less about the awkward stuff. But I wanted to make sure I was in control, what we would do for birth control, what we would do if I still got pregnant, the entire thing. And when we finally did, I felt completely comfortable, so it was perfect. But it didn't really "mean" anything to me. I had always planned to just lose it to someone older, who of never have to see again, so I had no expectations. It wasn't important to me. But if it is to you, probably not the route to go. And, be aware that one of you may develop feelings. We didn't, so it was fine. But be careful!
Is it normal to long for a Friends w/ Benefits Relationship?
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Ooh this is totally right up my alley. So I was never in a relationship, and never wanted one really. Then I met a guy, we became friends. We started talking about sex, and we were both virgins. I didn't want to, he did, but didn't pressure me. Then I wanted a relationship, I didn't. For whatever reason though, I still wanted to sleep with him (NOT because I thought it would make him want a relationship, I know better than that!) So we talked about it for forever. And I think that it was good because we were friends, not romantically involved, so I worried less about the awkward stuff. But I wanted to make sure I was in control, what we would do for birth control, what we would do if I still got pregnant, the entire thing. And when we finally did, I felt completely comfortable, so it was perfect. But it didn't really "mean" anything to me. I had always planned to just lose it to someone older, who of never have to see again, so I had no expectations. It wasn't important to me. But if it is to you, probably not the route to go. And, be aware that one of you may develop feelings. We didn't, so it was fine. But be careful!