It isn't normal. However, you need to take some agency in your own choices; unless they hogtie you or hold you at gunpoint, other people cannot force you into a life you didn't choose. If you let people walk on you long enough, then yes, they're going to assume you're a doormat and be upset when you won't let them wipe their feet on you any more.
It's obvious that you're miserable, so what steps are you taking to change that? Are you seeking some help for the depression and rage you seem to feel? Are you getting away from the people who have used you? Are you getting therapy to find out why you were willing to sacrifice your hopes, dreams and identity for other people?
I wish you luck, but I think you may need some help changing things. Talk to a therapist, a loving friend, a parent or someone else you can trust and start finding ways to crawl out of the hole. It doesn't matter if you dug it or someone else dug it; the important thing is that you find ways to climb out of it.
What are you Dr Phil? Why u in this chick's business? life your own life, bro. I don't give advice I give guidance u know what i'm sayin? Did you Melissa found out I talked about her on here? she was really mad lol
A) There's this cool site called "Is It Normal?" in which people ask questions to find out if what they're experiencing is, in fact, normal. The site has places for people to respond with comments and advice. It's really cool; you should totally try it, bro.
B) The OP posted a wail of pure misery; saying "talk to a therapist before you decide that everything is 'complete and utter hopelessness' " is not exactly being Dr. Phil.
Is it normal to live your entire life for everyone else?
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It isn't normal. However, you need to take some agency in your own choices; unless they hogtie you or hold you at gunpoint, other people cannot force you into a life you didn't choose. If you let people walk on you long enough, then yes, they're going to assume you're a doormat and be upset when you won't let them wipe their feet on you any more.
It's obvious that you're miserable, so what steps are you taking to change that? Are you seeking some help for the depression and rage you seem to feel? Are you getting away from the people who have used you? Are you getting therapy to find out why you were willing to sacrifice your hopes, dreams and identity for other people?
I wish you luck, but I think you may need some help changing things. Talk to a therapist, a loving friend, a parent or someone else you can trust and start finding ways to crawl out of the hole. It doesn't matter if you dug it or someone else dug it; the important thing is that you find ways to climb out of it.
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What are you Dr Phil? Why u in this chick's business? life your own life, bro. I don't give advice I give guidance u know what i'm sayin? Did you Melissa found out I talked about her on here? she was really mad lol
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A) There's this cool site called "Is It Normal?" in which people ask questions to find out if what they're experiencing is, in fact, normal. The site has places for people to respond with comments and advice. It's really cool; you should totally try it, bro.
B) The OP posted a wail of pure misery; saying "talk to a therapist before you decide that everything is 'complete and utter hopelessness' " is not exactly being Dr. Phil.
C) I'm a sis, not a bro, bro.
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oh you're a sis. I have a sister and mmm hmm she is so delicious. Anyways I didn't even read the post. I just hate whining