Is it normal to like your best friend's sister?

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Basically, I just turned 18, am in my first year of college, and I have a crush on my friend's little sister. She's a senior in high school, but we're only six months apart age wise, so that's not the problem. The problem is that she's my best friend's (my grade but older than me by almost a year) younger sister, and I feel really terrible about it. I know her pretty well so normally it wouldn't be that weird, but I feel like I'm betraying my friend by liking her. I don't know how I can look him in the eye keeping it from him. I've tried to suppress and ignore these feelings for a while, but to no avail. Is this normal or am I a screwed up person? Also, should I tell him, or hold it in?

Some additional info. Before anyone gets ahead of themselves, I'm not looking to just sleep with her, my feelings are emotional. I've never had a date, and I'm a virgin, so I have little experience with these things and these circumstances only make it more complicated.

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BeautifulDreamer612

6 years ago

You sound like a great guy/ girl 🙂 There is nothing wrong with liking your best friends sister. Do whatever you think is best. If you decide to pursue a relationship with her, then it you should talk about it with your friend first. Ask for his blessing, tell him what you feel for her (how you are serious about her), and tell him that if he is against the idea then you won't ask her out.

Also keep in mind that if you and her do start a relationship and then break up, things can be really awkward between you and your friend.

Good Luck ❤️

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Thanks for the advice!
  
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  - BeautifulDreamer612
    
    6 years ago
    
    Your welcome 💕
    
    Best wishes ☺️
    
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Imswelling

6 years ago

I fucked my best friend's little sister while he sat on the end of the bed.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Uhhhh okay then.
  
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S12207

6 years ago

I think you should honest! There's nothing wrong with expressing your feelings but I can dedinitely see him getting shitty if you keep it from him and start sneaking around. He's going to care that you don't hurt her, and you don't get hurt. If you two are true friends he should understand. Not saying he will be jumping for joy but it's always better to tell the truth especially with your good friends. Does she know? Btw you're far from a screwed up person, you seam to be very genuine and loyal...thats hard to come by these days so don't ever lose That!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  She definitely doesn't know, unless she picked up on it somehow, but I've definitely never flirted with her, or at least consciously did. I mean, she's friendly to me, but I highly doubt she likes me anyway. I'm not sure if I'd even ask her out if he gave his blessing, but thanks for the reassurance that I'm at least not screwed up for feeling this way. I definitely wouldn't go sneaking around in any case.
  
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Ratmanspeeks

6 years ago

With the way that you feel about her and the fact that you are a virgin, you really need to stock up on condoms dude. That first load of yours is really going to pack a punch. It will make you a daddy as sure as the sun does shine. Food for thought. Good luck!

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- JaBJiBJaBJiB
  
  6 years ago
  
  Shut your dribbling pie hole!
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Haha thanks but that's not my aim here.
  
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JimmyBlack

6 years ago

Just be careful if you do start going out with her and you forget and tell your buddy "Man, I banged the snot out of my girlfriend last night..." haha.
All kidding aside, it's perfectly normal for you to like her and especially you care about hurting or pissing off your friend.
Without knowing who your buddy is or what kind of person he is I'd tell him. Explain immediately that you like her, respect her and want a relationship with her ... add your friend in that explaination quickly too telling him you value him as a friend and don't want anything to ruin it.
Then tell him it's his own fault he has a hot sister!
Good luck.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Thanks for the advice! That makes sense.
  
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Nickvey

6 years ago

if he was your best friend he would be setting you up with his sister to make you his brother-in law. dump his ass and go with her, he is not your friend. i had a dear female friend when i was 30 she was 25 and was trying to set me up with her 18 year old sister because i was a good man. Meaning i could not be beta cucked by the older sister.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  That's pretty harsh. He doesn't even know I like her, so why would he do that. I've known the guy since we were 10, this doesn't define our friendship.
  
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Justmehere

6 years ago

I'd say normal, just be careful with the friend. Don't be forward or intrusive about her. I was on the other side of this: the brother of a hot, older sister all guys, including my friends, wanted. They'd sometimes be direct about what they wanted to DO to or with her, but mostly, try to get info from me they could use with her. I knew none of them had a shot, but, she did eat up the attention and knew I talked about her with them.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Thanks for the perspective. I'm just worried since this is his younger sister he'll be more protective. Even if I don't pursue it, I'm afraid he won't be able to look at me the same.
  
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  - JimmyBlack
    
    6 years ago
    
    He is super protective with her? Do you have a history of using women or being nice to them? Does he know the kind of guy you are?
    I'd say you're all set. Go for it. That is if she agrees to go out with you. Would kind of suck if you talked to him and then asked her and she said no. Might be weird all around, but you'll never know if you don't try.
    
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      6 years ago
      
      I have no history with women basically. I've never even been on a date, but he definitely knows I'm not the type of guy to use anyone, let alone his sister. He's protective, but I think he'd probably be more uncomfortable with it than angry. The thing is I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me anyway, and then everything would become needlessly weird for no benefit.
      
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  - Justmehere
    
    6 years ago
    
    It should be fine. Guys with sisters know, at some point, their friends are going to look and have interest. Just happens. Mine was very outgoing, hot, and, as she drove when we didn't, took us places, so, my guys had more time around her than others who I didn't hang out with. Gave them more opportunity to lust after her, then later, get info from me about her.
    
    Funny, my friends were a variety of personalities. One, the shy guy who my sister had fun even mildly flirting with, one the stud-wannabe who'd ogle and eye her up so blatantly even I'd tell him, dude.., and other the more intelligent, try the smart approach with her. She took me to work one afternoon and we were chatting about them, and she joked "And what's with that Mike? He's always staring at my boobs and making comments..Tell him he couldn't handle me". And I did.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Haha that's pretty funny. Seems like she had a good time playing with the situation.
      
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      - Justmehere
        
        6 years ago
        
        Oh, she knew all the time, and did play it up. The three of us were swimming in the one guy's pool, and, as my car at the time was getting worked on and inspected, she picked me up. Wasn't there ten seconds before the "Come on in, join us" requests started. I'd egged them on by telling them she often wore her bikini (tiny and black, which she layed out to tan in) under her already-short jeans shorts and tank top. That really got them going.
        
        If she wasn't short on time, she may have joined us, but, also said, in joking "Those guys would have me stripped immediately, wouldn't they? Told her, yep..No question.
        
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edwininthematrix

6 years ago

I think you need to give a long and hard consideration about reevaluating your sexual orientation. truth is that siblings will almost always resemble each other, so saying that you have feelings for your friend's sister is implicitly suggesting that you have inner repressed attraction towards your friend of the same gender. I mean it must be weird if you have these intense feelings of fantasizing about going down on a chick who basically looks like your best friend wearing a wig.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  First of all, I said I liked her, not that I was having sexual fantasies about her. And she is most certainly a different person from her brother, both physically (obviously) and personality wise. I know I'm straight thank you very much.
  
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- JimmyBlack
  
  6 years ago
  
  Blahaha. You're an ass Ed! That isn't true at all. It's only true if she's a twin with her bro! :)
  She's not a twin is she!?!?!?
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    6 years ago
    
    No, they're not twins of any kind. They're basically a year apart age wise.
    
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