Is it normal to lie about being pregnant

So I've been with this guy for a while & I love him to death. But lately he's been really weird towards me so I lied about missing my period. At first I really thought I was pregnant but it ended up coming late. I havent told him because I'm scared if I do he won't have any reason to stick around anymore. I feel like a horrible person but I'm just scared of losing him.

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  • dappled

    My sister-in-law pulled this stunt with my brother. They split up over it. She then went off and actually got pregnant on a one night stand. After a couple of years of single motherhood, my brother stepped back in and they had more kids. But because of the lie, one of the kids isn't his own (although, as a family, we don't make any distinction - she'll always be my niece, even though we're technically not related).

    You haven't let things spiral enough out of control yet, and you can still resolve this. I'd be as honest as you can without letting slip what you've done. I.e. say you thought you were pregnant and have now realised you aren't. Just hope he doesn't ask about the dates or when you found out. If he does, you really have to be honest and front up.

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  • i thnk your first step is to get birth control organized. second is to tell him you were mistaken. third is dont try that stunt again, you will lose if you do. the boy, you word and your self respect all gone. its not too late

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  • 343Boy

    You will probably ironically lose him because you're being a lying manipulative fuck about this.

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  • Geppoff1

    NO! THATS BEYOND F*D UP! WASTING HIS TIME JUST TO PLEASE YOUR SELFISH WILL, ALL BY LYING! IF HE WANTS TO GO YOU NEED TO LET HIM OR HE WILL RESENT YOU AND ALL YOULL BE TO HIS MEMORY WAS THAT BITCH THAT MADE UP A STORY ABOUT BEING PREG TO KEEP HIM FROM LEAVING. ONLY CRAZY PEOPLE DO THIS!

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  • babaG

    Short answer: Fuck you. Grow up.

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  • sir.kirk

    I hate everything you stand for. Tell him so he can tell you how he honestly feels about your stupid ass

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  • Penguin_pie

    I think it's normal to impulsivly do this when you're scared of losing someone. As long as you don't go any further and just tell him you got your period everything should be fine.

    I'm NOT saying this is a good thing to do at all, I just think it's a normal reaction for a girl to have when she's in that state of mind.

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  • tierynxana

    That's not even a whore move. A whore would actually get pregnant, dumbfucks.

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  • darren3

    He will hate you for this. Tell him you got your period and move on. If he dumps you, well, its probably deserved.

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  • Burn in hell, you fucking whore.

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    • Kera96

      Shut the fuck up you nasty piece of trash. Pls killyourself

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  • rayst

    Bitch

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    • dappled

      That's a little bit harsh. The OP seems like a nice person to me who is finding herself in a difficult situation and is asking for advice.

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      • grahamsgirl

        bitch x a zillion

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  • Kera96

    Just say that your period came and you were only later! Ive impulsively told a guy i loved i was pregnant he wanted me to get an abortion anyway so i just didnt see him for a couple weeks we are now married with 3 kids and i told him about he just laughed and called me a pyscho
    WHY? Because i have borderline personality disorder and i do things impulsively all the time without even realising I'll fabricate an entire story and believe it myself

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  • Peanuts

    Noooooo for god's sake don't do this to guys!

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  • Trust me. Lying about children, bringing another life form into the world, who you are responsible for.. That's not something to hold back from him.
    He's probably shitting hiself right now.

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  • AmvEditor

    Tsss woman....

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  • fourberry

    he's gonna know now or later, and waiting will only make it worse.

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  • chocolatebuttons

    I was in this situation with a guy. I was so scared of losing him then found out he was cheating, I was late and said I was pregnant. He didn't believe me and we broke up and he never talked to me agsin. He had cheated on me a lot and was very manipulative and I lost so much self respect being with him. I still regret lying but Im so glad it ended a really bad relationship. Any guy who makes you feel that insecure and desperate enough to lie about being pregnant is not worth it anyway xxx

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  • mattdb826

    Yeah I had an ex that did the same kinda deal to me...and now she's my ex if you get where I'm going

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  • CountryRoads

    Disgusting.

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  • Jessie735513

    Tell him your period was late. If he sticks with you, yay! If not, he doesn't deserve you

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  • gritzandeggz

    Bringing another life into this world is nothing to lie about. And playing with this dude's emotions is some bullshit. You are wrong for doing that to him. Tell the truth and if he breaks up with you then you deserve it.

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  • Lia

    You really should tell him. You don't need to tell him that you lied; just tell him the truth: that your period came late. If he loves you he'll stay with you still. Having your boyfriend stay with you just because he thinks your pregnant is pointless if he doesn't really love you.

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  • rukii

    That is what my ex did to be untill I found out oh I was mad....

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  • Beckzy

    Thats not nice, is it? Why pretend? You say your doing it because you're scared he won't stick around? If he doesn't want to, then thats his choice, don't confuse him. Its pathetic to try and make him stay. Come on, talk to him, tell him the truth and if he doesn't want you then call it a day. Be a woman, love. Do you know how many women want kids but can't? Its unfair and stupid. Grow up and be HONEST. Because this won't work. You'll loose him either way.

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  • CharRarMarNar

    Not cool.

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  • iateagrape

    you do relise lying would get you nowhere.
    truth hurts for a little while, but a lie hurts forever.
    and you will end up losing him if you keep this up.

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  • TyLee

    That is a great idea hardcandy ill have to try that one sometime

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  • And he didn't pick up on you getting your period?

    This guy is as dumb as a bag of hammers.

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  • 8Serene8

    You disgust me. Tell him the truth NOW.

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  • Michaelangelus

    This sounds like an episode of Glee. In Glee they ended up splitting up. Come clean before it's too late!

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  • If he finds out you faked pregnancy he will leave you for sure! btw: shame on you!!

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  • jerseydevil

    Well, lose him now or a few months from now when it's obvious you're not pregnant. Do you really think lies and deceit will make him any happier in the relationship?

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  • Sotchi

    If u love him then u should show it by not being manipulative and dishonest. You're not going to get good results with what you're doing- you get back what you put out. I would talk to someone, or try to do some things to help get to the bottom of why you feel so insecure that he's going to leave you. Do some things that are good for you- maybe help others- things to raise your level of self worth. He can't be responsible for making you happy or be your entire world. You need to find that within yourself so that you can then have a healthy relationship with him. Be honest with him.

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  • KeyboardSolo

    If he sticks around because he thinks you're pregnant, he'll end up resenting you (if he doesn't already) and everything will fall apart. If he finds out you've been lying, he'll resent you and things will fall apart.

    Sorry, but there's no saving this relationship.

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  • howaminotmyself

    You are not being fair to him or the fictitious child. But you know this is wrong.

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  • MorganElla

    I was in the same situation and i never got the guts to tell mine and i regret it every day, its now a year on and i've never told ANYONE, i just left it, i said i missed my period and no more came from it, i think he thinks i was pregnant but something went wrong and i dont wanna talk about it. Now its too far gone to say anything and i feel AWFUL everyday, especially as i recently DID get pregnant and he was REALLYY HELPFUL throughout my abortion... i'd say tell him you've came on, and then say thanks to him for being supportive and hope for the best, this isnt the way to keep a guy :/

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89

    You're toying with a mans worse nightmare and there are gonna be a lot of men out there who hate you for this! You can either be honest and tell him the truth or tell him you've just come on, either way you HAVE to tell him.
    I really hope you're not one of these girls that lie about it, and the only resolution you have is to actually get pregnant =/ enough children in this world are from broken homes and trust me if you have a child with this man it will not make him stay with you, it may work for a while but inevitably you will split up.
    Some things are meant to be, if the only way you can keep him is by pretending you are pregnant then you're not really meant to be are you?
    This is awful, you need to sort it out.

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  • Hard_Candy

    I did this once and I made the guy give me money for an abortion. Then I spent it on clothes... hahaha. It was great.

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    • Geppoff1

      hoe-worthy move...

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      • Hard_Candy

        Fuck you asshole. You don't know me. Your momma's a hoe.

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        • grahamsgirl

          this shit is crackin me up like an egg

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          • BoredGuy

            I think your hoe too.

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