If you guys do well with eachother besides that, and you dont want someone who will encourage your habit, then just tell her don't ask don't tell. Don't separate from her because of her intolerance, and leave it up to her to separate from you because of it. Don't change your drug use unless you think it's the right decision for you. You'll resent it and never know whether it was the correct thing to do. I've been married for 5 years in a very similar situation, and besides an occasional butting of heads, our don't ask don't tell policy works just fine.
Are you kidding me? That is awful advice. I don't understand how you are married at all or divorced. My God the most important part of any GOOD relationship is trust, openess and honesty. How could you even consider anything else to be a real relationship? Neither of you are in a relationship and the correct thing to do would be to come clean and stop living like pathetic liars. Absolutely ridiculous.
Thing is she doesn't want such a policy. She wants everything to be out in the open, and unless I get these things off my chest my conscience is going to keep wrecking me.
Is it normal to lead a "double life" and hide it from my girlfriend?
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If you guys do well with eachother besides that, and you dont want someone who will encourage your habit, then just tell her don't ask don't tell. Don't separate from her because of her intolerance, and leave it up to her to separate from you because of it. Don't change your drug use unless you think it's the right decision for you. You'll resent it and never know whether it was the correct thing to do. I've been married for 5 years in a very similar situation, and besides an occasional butting of heads, our don't ask don't tell policy works just fine.
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Are you kidding me? That is awful advice. I don't understand how you are married at all or divorced. My God the most important part of any GOOD relationship is trust, openess and honesty. How could you even consider anything else to be a real relationship? Neither of you are in a relationship and the correct thing to do would be to come clean and stop living like pathetic liars. Absolutely ridiculous.
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You're completely right. Thank you.
Thing is she doesn't want such a policy. She wants everything to be out in the open, and unless I get these things off my chest my conscience is going to keep wrecking me.